15 More Truths That Will Piss You Off (Before They Set You Free)
You’re not stuck because you’re broken—you’re stuck because you’re lying to yourself & you don't even know it.
Last week, I dropped Part 1 of this series: 15 Ugly Truths That Most People Won’t Tell You- But You Need to Hear.
I originally wrote all 30 in one piece, but let’s be real—it felt like trying to drink from a firehose while getting slapped in the face. It was too much all at once. The truth got drowned in the volume.
So I broke it in half.
Not to protect your feelings, but to make sure the weight of each truth had room to hit.
If you made it through Part 1, congrats: you survived 15 hard truths that most people spend their lives avoiding. You didn’t flinch. Or maybe you did—but you kept reading. That says something.
It says you’re ready for the rest.
And this next round? It’s not lighter. It’s not “balanced.” It’s not interested in your ego’s opinion.
It’s here to expose the lies you still tell yourself.
To call out the habits you defend with fake boundaries.
To force you out of emotional park and into actual movement.
So here we go.
Part 2.
No fluff. No filters. Just 15 more truths—and a mirror you can’t unlook into.
Let’s begin.
1. Most people don’t care about you -nor will everyone like you. Get over it!
You’re performing like the world’s watching. It’s not. Most people are too busy obsessing over their own lives, insucurities, and unpaid bills to give a damn about yours. And the handful who do judge you? Who cares?!! Really. You couldn’t get all 8 billion people on this planet to agree on anything- not vaccines, pineapple on pizza, or whether LeBron is better than Jordan (it’s Jordan, sit down). Not even Jesus had a 100% approval rating. So what makes you think you’re gonna pull it off?
When you finally stop caring who likes you, you start liking yourself.
2. You don’t deserve what you’re not willing to earn.
Wanting it doesn’t make it yours. Praying for it, visualizing it, journaling about it? Not enough. Action is the currency. Stop asking the world to deliver what you haven’t even gone after.
3. If you’re always the victim, you’re the problem.
If it’s always someone else’s fault—every ex, every job, every fallout—you might be the common denominator. Accountability sucks until it sets you free.
4. Your past doesn’t define you…you do.
What happened to you is real. But what you do with it? That’s where the power is. You’re not sentenced to repeat history unless you keep letting it run the show.
Confession #1
I grew up poor. A little girl with nothing, convinced I’d always be nothing. But that version of me? She’s not the final draft. I’ve made mistakes—big ones shared in my book. But I learned this: there’s old Jen and there’s new Jen. And old Jen doesn’t get to narrate my future.
5. Not everyone is your friend.
Some people just like having access to you. Others like the version of you that doesn’t ask for anything. Friendly isn’t the same as safe. Learn the difference.
Confession #2
This one hit like a gut punch. Once I stopped giving everyone front-row access to my life just because they wanted it—or because we shared DNA—everything got easier.
I started putting people in the right places: friend, acquaintance, emotional hitchhiker, blood-relative with zero qualifications.
Family doesn’t get a free pass. Neither do high-maintenance, low-effort friends.
When I stopped chasing the ones who only took, I had more space to love the ones who gave back. That one shift changed everything.
6. If you keep blaming others, you’ll stay stuck.
Blame gives your power away. It turns your healing into someone else’s responsibility. You can’t be in control and play the victim at the same time.
7. How people treat you reflects them—not you.
When someone is disrespectful, toxic, manipulative—that’s their character, not your worth. But how long you tolerate it? That’s on you.
Confession #3
Old Jen thought people being rude meant she wasn’t good enough. I twisted myself to please them. Now? I know better. I could show up as the kindest person on earth, and some people will still be jerks. That’s their reflection, not mine.
8. Other people’s opinions are none of your business.
You will never control how people see you. And trying to is exhausting. Live in a way that lets you sleep at night—not in a way that keeps everyone else comfortable.
Confession #4
This was hard and still is sometimes. Especially when people have loud, shitty opinions of me -exes, coworkers, fake friends disgruntled family. But eventually I realized: it’s not my job to fix their perception. It’s not even my business. I’ve got more important things to do than manage other people’s delusions.
9. Your true self isn’t broken—just buried.
You’re not a lost cause. You’re just layered in survival instincts, bad habits, and trauma responses. Strip it back. The real you is still in there.
10. You judge yourself by intentions—but others by actions.
You “meant well,” but you ghosted. You “had good reasons,” but you lied. If you want grace from others, offer it. If you want self-respect, match your actions to your values.
11. If everyone gets a medal, no one learns to fight.
You don’t build strength from being coddled. You build it from losing. From failing. From hearing “no” and not crumbling into a tantrum because the universe didn’t hand you a trophy for showing up.
Life doesn’t owe you applause for effort.
You grow by getting knocked down and dragging your sorry ass back up without asking for a round of applause.
Stop demanding comfort. Stop expecting rewards for breathing.
Resilience is built when life tells you “not yet”—and you keep going anyway.
So no, you don’t get a medal. You get to earn something better: actual grit.
12. Buying things won’t fix the hole inside you.
Your Amazon cart isn’t therapy. Your car isn’t confidence. Your designer bag won’t carry your self-worth.
You’re not unfulfilled because you need a bigger house—you’re unfulfilled because you keep decorating a life that doesn’t feel like yours.
You're trying to patch a soul wound with credit cards.
The truth? You’re not treating yourself—you’re distracting yourself.
You don’t need more stuff. You need to stop chasing status and start building substance.
The Joneses are broke, miserable, and medicating with purchases too.
Stop trying to keep up with people who aren’t even happy with what they’ve got.
You can’t buy your way out of emptiness. You have to face it.
13. Comparison is a thief dressed as a mirror.
You’re comparing your behind-the-scenes with someone else’s filtered highlight reel and wondering why you feel like shit. Stop staring at their lane. Drive your own.
Confession #5
I used to compare everything—looks, homes, relationships. And guess what? It made me miserable. Turns out what works for someone else might not fit me at all. The minute I stopped chasing other people’s versions of success, life got a hell of a lot easier.
14. Jealousy has two faces—watch which one you wear.
One says, “I want that too.” The other says, “You don’t deserve that.” The first is inspiration. The second is poison. Know the difference before it ruins you.
15. Input equals output.
What you consume becomes who you are. Doomscrolling, drama, junk food, Netflix binges—you’re feeding your mind trash and wondering why you feel empty. Change your inputs. Change everything.
Confession #6
Old Jen? Consumed garbage - daytime TV, drama, toxic people, watched the news, ate junk. New Jen? Changed her inputs. I read things that feed me. I spend time with people who lift me. I scroll with purpose. I eat with intention. And surprise—my output changed with it.
You Wanted Real. This Is Real.
You said you were tired of settling. You said you wanted change. Well—here it is.
No sugar. No fluff. Just the kind of truth most people spend their entire lives avoiding.
Now it’s your move.
You can scroll past this and keep calling it growth.
Or you can let today be the day you finally stop lying to yourself.
And if you’re ready for more than just a wake-up call—
If you want the how, not just the hell yes...
I invite you to read my book:
I Am Amazing: How I Transformed Trauma Into Happiness & Broke Free From the Past.
It’s not polished. It’s not pretty. It’s the real story of how I walked through fire—and came out a new person.
And if you’re ready? You can too.
I would say the most important truth, is that there are over 2 billion people in this world who think about God first, then they think about others they think about you and me, and they care about themselves third because they fear ever being selfish in the eyes of God, Jesus Christ, and they keep those first two Commandments, the first to love God with all mine body and soul, and the second Commandment is to love somebody else before one’s self. And I would say a good percentage of those people when they think about Michael Jordan and LeBron James, Jordan was worthless to think about, and he created a billion sneaker industry in China, and LeBron James did the same thing, except for he added global alcohol poisoning putting his worthless face on boxes of Hennessy. I’m mentioning this because your article points out a severe plague in this world of self-centeredness, and at its core, it came from decades of no biblical principles in the schools no Bible being taught, did you do a Christian principles, especially in this country that are founding fathers wrote its vital importance in teaching our history and also to keep people from becoming corrupt, keeping the family unit as the most important thing after God, the sacred idea of marriage as a covenant of God, and if these things weren’t removed from our school systems in the 60s, Kids wouldn’t be growing up learning about sex at 13 years old from teachers and also that we came from apes…. Instead, there would be no mention of sexuality in the classroom, and the teachers would be pointing out that we came from God and Adam and Eve… and that we were not like animals, but we were creators and very different, and that we had a spirit inside of us that goes to either heaven, or it gets separated from God if we are not in line when we die…. Giving us great. Hope that this is not just one life we’re living. The entire country had a different ethos just 75 years ago…. The church at the hub of every town and city, in conjunction with every family was how we ran our school systems, the curriculums, the books, the teachers, these things were not installed by districts from a centralized government, there was no Board of Education, even our preschool and kindergartens, and most smaller schools had private buses, volunteers that would pick the kids up and bring them to school if they couldn’t walk or parents would drive them… no yellow school bus with Board of education on the side. And everybody was learning the dangers of socialism, communism, fascism, and Marxism, like the Nazis and what they did with their school systems by removing the Bibles from their schools during Hitler’s rise…. It’s what our government did to our school systems they copied the exact socioeconomic policies of Adolf Hitler, except for our government used sex education instead of turning kids against certain religions, though our school systems did that much later recently with DEI, they literally adapted communist, socialist, Marxist, and fascist, ideologies and governing operations from the most evil dictators in history, Germany Russia, China, North Korea, and today we’re seeing radical Islamic jihadist ideals being taught in our universities….
These are actually the most important things to be pointing out to people today, otherwise it’s a bunch of people giving self-help idea ideas about the self about how people feel and how they can change how they feel how they live, trying to address problems that so many people have, without even explaining how we got here with such a gigantic social sickness, why we have so many people trying to better themselves and think about themselves and get into themselves and free themselves of all these issues problems, releasing themselves from their own bondage from anxiety, depression, the fears of the world of disease of government of climate change, of all the fake science that we’ve been hearing since NASA came up with a plethora of things to fear in the 70s that never materialized everything from losing our agriculture, starvation, global warming global freezing, always looking 20 years ahead that we better worry and do something about it before the world ends from our own destruction, the pollution was going to kill us… we were going to have no more water… the seas we’re going to rise up and drown everybody…. None of it happened.
NASA would’ve never been able to put out any of those insane fear. Mongering lies if the Bibles weren’t removed from our schools. .. because the old testament teaches us that nothing will change the seas will never rise, that God is in control of all of it, and we can enjoy the whole world and never worry, as long as we trust in God we will see his beautiful work, play out just as it’s prophesied…. And that actually all came true. It was all true, including the Earth was round., and they removed that history, where the Greeks and other nations 1000 years ago, we’re claiming the Earth was flat, people were put in jail for saying otherwise, when the scriptures read that the Earth was round thousands of years before those philosophers and astrologers and teachers were giving the people those false ideas. The Bible was the number one factor in our society that made it healthy, prosperous., there was no such thing as legal divorce or abortion, no gender ideology, no kids going to school thinking about themselves and their own feelings about who they are, because over 95% of everyone who went to school every day was thinking about God and then other others… to self-centeredness the narcissism that we see today came from those books being removed from our lives. And there’s the core of all the problems in our country and the rest of the world.
Fantastic! Love so much of this, especially your vulnerable confessions. No. 7 is soooo important!! Thank you for writing (and thinking) like you do!!