Been through two divorces and anyone unfortunate enough to be going through one should absorb all of this.
My girls from my first marriage are now in their early 20s and made it through every other week parenting. After almost 20 years from the first marriage ending, I can look back and say we're both probably better off for it and happier.
The biggest regret is all the missed time that I would've had with my daughters had we remained together. But, oh yeah, there were weeks when I dropped them off that I would've happily just booted both of them out of the car without stopping (and there were weeks when the ex felt the same too! lol). Parenting, not for the faint of heart!
Hi Bryant. Thank you for commenting. First, I agree with your first comment about keeping religion to ourselves- 100%!! Thank you.
And yes, parenting is definitely not for the faint of heart, especially single parenthood. I too have days when I can't wait for them to go to their dad's bc they are driving me nuts. And I also have somber days when I wish they could stay with me forever.
I remind myself this was the best decision I ever made and divorce is what actually gave my kids a chance in life, bc we were just so toxic together. I don't know what goes on at their father's home, but the home they have with me is safe and quiet (for the most part) and a soft place for them to land. Divorce is hard at first, but staying in a toxic relationship that is never going to change is harder.
I was just thinking of my Mom and youngest brother. She stayed with his Dad for him (a true narcicist), which was not good for anyone but that asshat.
And as for the Biblical institution of marriage, lol, which kind -- the kind where you get to have concubines? Marry your brother's wife if he dies? Have multiple wives? I think there's another flavor or three in there too.
Anyways, great piece and even as it sucks you did the right thing.
The fact that anyone thinks that divorce could be amazing for the kids is a total lie. Before 1969 when legal divorce was passed in California., we did not have anything like kids on meds, crack, transvestite, prostitutes, walking the streets of the cities, rehabs for millions of kids, rooms full of people at AA all over the nation, talking about sobriety, we didn’t have sex education with Planned Parenthood and abortions with kids having sex for years with her boyfriends and girlfriends and never getting married… this happened in the 70s after they removed the Bible from the schools in the 60s and people were afraid to get divorced because it was a sin against God it actually says that the parents will both be cursed and so will the kids. And that’s exactly what happened to millions of children from divorced families after 69, 30% of the country became divorced, and those kids were destroyed in their behaviors, the partying the drugs and sex. In the 70s the biggest parties in the suburbs we’re in the houses where it was just the mom. The father had left and married a younger woman, those houses became party houses, because there was no father in the house…. Nobody worried about doing drugs, smoking weed and everybody’s house with the mom there….. it was the Democratic Party. It was the government. It was planned parenthood, and other organizations that orchestrated all of it so that Kids would be destroyed, ruining the family unit attacking the church…. Sex education eventually turn into trans.education, hormones in surgery, non-binary the phrase like transgender coming out of academia, Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Oxford dictionary, putting those things in there, so the kids believe in it as a real thing divorce is part of this. There is nothing good about divorce not to mention both parties become liars. The reflection of a child, thinking two people can make a promise, a covenant in front of witnesses in front of God, till death do us part., and then break the promise…. They are liars…. That is a lesson to children that you can lie about anything the most important thing on earth is the marriage covenant., and now it could be broken and it’s actually a great thing for kids? If there’s abuse in a marriage the couple shouldn’t have gotten married probably but still that is the worst part, cheating is another, worst part, and he promised for better or worse so you stay married even if it’s bad, because it’s not about the couples happiness, it’s about having to stay together, and make it work no matter what, for the children and for society and the community. Anybody who is telling the world that divorce is even considerable as something good, they need to get with God, and understand what marriage is. There is no divorce according to God because the couple becomes 1 flesh… you cannot separate yourself from yourself. And that kind of mentality prevents people from marrying for the wrong reasons like for money or Security or because they are just attracted.. or they fall in love they think that’s a reason… people fall in love with the wrong people all the time you’re not supposed to marry them. You’re not even supposed to have sex before marriage you’re supposed to marry somebody equally yoked in values…. People who believe in God, or you don’t get married. But the idea that people get married, knowing they can get divorced.? that’s not a marriage that’s fake. And that’s why we have sex education with transvestites drag queens and we get trans. Children school shooters…… and there is nothing good about any of this divorce is evil, divorce, lawyers, are against God, sex education is evil, and so is two people having sex outside of marriage. It’s a serious crime against God that happens inside the body… against the persons soul…. And if I’m wrong, then show me how great this country is and how great the children are doing…. 70 million kids today almost half of them say they are non-binary. They are into gay sex….. divorce is horrendous because that’s what it led to. And that’s the end of the story. We need to get back to biblical principles if this country has a chance of children growing up to prosper and build communities and own property.. this title should’ve been divorced sucks. And no other words after that.
Really the world would be a better place? Why don’t you look at the data of how many people don’t even pay attention to biblical principles anymore. And look what happened in 80 years to the world. Your world is a disgusting cesspool because people aren’t sharing the word. We have little kids getting surgeries their genitals cut off without their parents permission at UCLA Children’s Hospital and also at Boston and others. That never happened when 96% of the country was going to church. With your idea, keeping the F quiet., and also using words like the F word which is destroying the integrity. It is offensive to billions of people and keeping kids dumped down, which is making this world, a horrible place specially the United States., and in your world today because people aren’t sharing the word, we have a whole month of parades in the cities where 13-year-old boys dressed in girls bikinis wearing angel wings are dancing around two songs being cheered on by old men, dressed in drag with microphones and women coming with children to get gift bags from major corporations, alerted by school officials, telling the parents to bring their kids to the pornographic parades. So yeah, the world will be a much better place.? Your idea of a better place in the world by people like me keeping quiet has caused school shooters that have been sexualized since kindergarten reading books like lawn boy about a pedophile rainbow dinosaur about gay animals, trans, sexual children, growing up to be medicated sexual, and having a hard time ever making any money or having children getting married and owning property…. Which is what has been happening for the last 40 years, especially in the last 15. The ignorance and stupidity is so palpable with your kind of thinking and it is you, and your mindset, that has actually made this world disgusting compared to what it was just 60 years ago. We didn’t have anything in school. We didn’t have school shooters. We didn’t have-year-olds on medication. We didn’t hear about all this down syndrome and other plagues destroying our children. We didn’t have sex books in the children’s section of the library. We never heard the word transgender because it would be insane to think somebody could change their gender but now over 40% of every kid in school believe so. I would love you to tell me how the world would be a better place without people like me telling people the truth about how disgusting their mind is when they are removed from the word of God and the biblical principles that by the way, this country was founded on. Our rights as American citizens come directly from the Bible and not government. And when they have that Bible in the school in 1960 there was no such thing as sex education. There was no such thing as a boy being able to go into the girls room and sexually abuse her by taking off his clothes or being dressed like the girl….. if you think these things make the world better, you should look at your sick and twisted ideas and realize they are backwards. And if you use the F word thinking it is cool or a great word to emphasize a sentence, it does not, it is a reflection of complete ignorance and stupidity and facilitates even more of the same in the next generation of people coming up believing there are 72 genders…. And there are over 250 million people in the country that agree with me., so there’s more ignorance in your thinking, though you are in with the leaders of North Korea, China, India, Venezuela, Cuba, Argentina, the ungodly socialist that loves to control the population and oppress their people… they would love you to move there and join them in your insanity.
I don’t know if it’s toxic but it’s ignorant and stupid, generalizing. But say you take a in the field survey, a in-depth analysis over a five year period, and examine tens of thousands of men in one city, literally taking photographs interviewing and observing in multiple locations every day seven days a week from morning till early evening, every food store shop café, sidewalk, block by block, and you observe and photograph more than 90% of every man with a dog, and many of them, holding the dog, over 50%, holding and kissing the dog on the head and rubbing it. And you end up trying to actually find 10 guys in the morning without dogs, out of hundreds, and you can’t find 10. You can’t find five. Could you come up with a realistic analysis that’s not generalization? Absolutely. You could come up with a total in-depth analysis that there is a sickness amongst men in that major city, and then, by doing some other research, you could find out just how many dogs per household there are, approximately, and then go back and look at the difference in the decades. From 1 million dogs, to explosion of 5 million dogs, and then you could put up the analysis of how many suicides, mental illness, broken homes, single men, homosexuality, skyrocketing. None of this would be a generalization. It would be actual science and not the kind of science we get from academia. It would be an on the ground in the field first hand account of what is happening to our society, especially the men. And just before I got this text message., in front of my Chase Bank, where I saw at least three guys go into the bank with giant dogs. Were they have dog food treats on the counter, I’m watching a guy at the ATM, pick up his filthy dog off the ground, holding it in his left arm, kissing the top of its head, and letting the dog lick his face, as he’s waiting for his money, rubbing the dog with the other hand, and kissing it even more… I’m at the point where I’m trying to find guys that don’t behave this way. There aren’t that many in Los Angeles. People in New York City are behaving the same way, especially in the last 15 years. Pregnant women have been behaving this way with their dogs in the last 20 years like an explosion in animism, we have never seen, and coincidentally, we have the greatest amount of down syndrome and birth defects we’ve ever seen in a 15 year span in the history of the United States. I’ve heard every doctor scientist professors all claim they can’t figure out why and they are working on it. They mentioned the foods. GMOs…. But they won’t even look at the pet.? The dog in the arms of a pregnant woman who’s kissing the dog, breathing in airborne feces? Airborne dried urine? But they will tell you mice poop has pathogens and bacteria that cause illness and death. And that is 100% true. Even poop from mice outside on the steps in bushes can infect humans. But a litter box in the house.? that’s considered healthy because it’s a house pet according to Oxford, Princeton Yale Harvard science. Those institutions have been instrumental at causing illness and all kinds of mental illness because of sexuality climate initiatives, that they make billions of endowments on., and I believe the same goes for pet ownership. So I totally agree with you about generalization, and I would never do something like that., I wouldn’t speak about something like this, until I spent years looking at enough people to know that this is beyond a problem…. It’s a total crisis with men in our country, at least in the major cities…. I would say that in the rural communities it is probably not there yet, we have maybe some more conservative minds, and more normal people in between the coastal regions, as liberalism and the absence of biblical principles in the coastal regions, and the schools have permeated those societies with everything from sexuality to pet ownership… those are the number one issues people care about their own loves of their sex, and what they love to love, whether it’s an animal, or their own behaviors.. people celebrate their behavior today in the streets in June. That’s not a generalization I’ve seen thousands show up every summer in support of these things. Millions of people come into the city to celebrate, homosexuality and transsexuals….. that’s not a generalization. And guess what almost 100% of them have? Dogs. Almost all of them…. Walking and holding them, not to mention the receptacles overflowing with feces on every corner.. walking around with bags of poop in their hand… breathing in that stuff every day. Now it’s in the bed on the furniture in the car and then all the stores. No longer can a landlord keep pets out of their building in Los Angeles devalues the property and it’s causing sickness. No longer can a store prevent someone from going into the store with an animal. The owners aren’t allowed to approach the people with the animal. Even though there are signs with all the health codes saying no pets allowed. Gavin Newsom made policies that override peoples principles, and also lowering the quality of life for millions of people who don’t want to be around other people’s animals. The self-centeredness and the narcissism is on a magnitude we’ve never seen in our lifetime. I have hundreds of photographs from seven days a week to back up what I am talking about… not to mention Planned Parenthood, NAACP, Comcast Viacom, the LGBT organizations, and government subsidizing agencies, they are all involved in getting as many people to own dogs as possible…. The same people that are pushing abortion, who celebrate sexuality, who claim to help black communities, but actually destroy them, and set up section 8 housing, they are also funding, pet ownership, and getting subsidies so people who normally couldn’t afford a dog now can get free everything including veterinary care. They opened up a multi million dollar shelter in LA so homeless people can have dogs and bring them there to get care…. What does that tell you? The thing is, if anybody tries to argue on the contrary, there’s just no defense of what’s happening. None of this is good for a community that wants to have children who are healthy and can prosper and end up owning property. In fact, it all goes against property ownership, and generational wealth. The same people that are burning down cities like Malibu and the Palisades and now trying to condemn the properties so people cannot rebuild anything but condos which people don’t own the actual property they just on the unit…. These are animal rights, activist people that work for the government that are helping get animals into peoples homes. Dogs in the arms of men….. that’s what we have on a massive scale… I could show you in real time with the video every single morning in different locations from every side of the city… it is stunning…. The love of the dog has replaced the love of God and the love of children. People don’t care that there are giants stages set up every summer with 13 year old boys dressed in girls bikinis with angel wings. Dancing to routines…. It’s going to happen again this June for a whole month… there was a time before men were holding dogs in their arms by the millions, we are no man whatever raise a child to think that they could do something like this, especially in public, and have a celebration? Nationwide? There’s no generalization when the holy land has these parades in Tel Aviv every summer….. it’s no generalization that hundreds of millions of mothers around the world have the biggest fear of their children being exposed to the sexuality…. And the men with the dogs all day picking up crap off the ground three times a day seven days a week., that’s a total reflection of why we have these kinds of issues… it is a disaster for our country.
I appreciate your passion for faith, Bud, but I don’t subscribe to a fundamentalist approach to religion. I believe in a faith that uplifts rather than restricts, that connects rather than isolates. We all need a little Jesus, (or religion of choice) and even those who have found Him could use a little more of the real Jesus—the one who led with love, grace, and understanding, not rigid rules and control or brainwashing. Faith should empower, not overpower. And not everything can be prayed away.
We also can’t go back in time a change generations of mistakes so the best we can do is break the cycles now and I’m doing that the best I can with me and my own family. Again, we aren’t living thousands of years ago when the Bible was written (by men) so unless you are spearing your fish every day and sharing your loaves of bread with the village, I think we have to live in the modern world and adjust our sails.
The Bible was written by over 40 authors over thousands of years, and every single chapter conned perfectly from genesis to revelation. And having a little Jesus, that’s liberalism. And he didn’t come about love at all. That’s another false teaching about the Bible. He came to warn the Israelites about the sin in their life. He came to warn people that there was a real place called hell, a physical place that most people are going to go if they’re not in line with God. It is peoples own ideas that just feel better that they are living by and those ideas are devastating and have destroyed what made this country absolutely prosperous compared to almost every nation on earth. If the Bible wasn’t 100%, correct, then India would be a super power, so with China, so with North Korea, Russia would’ve never lost their power… turkey Venezuela Cuba, Egypt, Rome….. all these countries have those kinds of ideas outside of the biblical principles that this country was founded on, George Washington did not believe in having a little Jesus he was full blown, lover of God, the way the Bible teaches. Jesus was not about love and peace… he talked about hell way more than Heaven. He talks about having fear of God because God is real, it’s not something people can just make up their own ideas about and think they are going to have a great lives. Most people that take a little bit of the Bible that is good and reject the rest and call it rigid or some kind of radical ideas or too strict, you can look at their lives, and it’s full of mistakes, full of devastating choices that do not profit, broken families, broken marriage and broken communities…. It’s how people end up under authoritarian regimes. The rigidity of the teaching of Jesus Christ is the only way we ever had a United States for almost 200 years, becoming a super power faster than countries that believed, in other things for thousands of years. Like India, where people still die from pestilence disease in the billions…. Where are places like China have people living in concentration camps it’s why they put Christians in jails… Christianity actually prosper’s children and families if they follow those doctrines with all their mind, body and soul. The thing about love in Jesus was that we are to love God with all the power we have in our soul, and with that love is how we love the spouse and the children…. And that kind of love prevents a lot of evil…. They prevent the pedophile it keeps those numbers low. It keeps abuse low. It has kept those things at a very low number for those religious sectors since the beginning of time. No matter how you slice it, people who talk about love, and that the Bible is no good in some ways, that’s liberalism. That’s where we get all the worst things in this country that are happening today. If we didn’t have transgender school shooters crack age and gay parades, drag queen, transvestite, prostitutes, not being arrested, in 1960, then, what’s the difference from 1960 till today? What is the biggest difference? It is that rigidity of the Bible that was talk to every child at four years old in preschool. It was that rigidity of Jesus Christ very strict warning about what would happen if people went anywhere outside those principles, and the Bible is 1000%, correct. Everything the Bible says will happen to children and families, if they do not adhere to the word., everyone of those things has happened. And that’s another thing the prophecy of what it says has come true. So there’s really no defense of the liberal ideas that we need a little Jesus and we can navigate with our own emotions and the way we feel about things.. human beings will destroy their own lives with their own thoughts and feelings. That’s why the Bible teachings have nothing to do with peoples emotions and it is not rigid when you realize, how beautiful and healthy over 90% of the families in the United States were, including the black communities, which has less than 2% divorce, before they removed the teachings of the Bible from children. We have a society today that has grown up without any of those teachings., so the average adult today, they believe watching their own mind, they didn’t have that structure that foundation that is vital for a prosperous society. And I just point out, show me one nation that raised their children, any other way, but the teachings of Jesus Christ, and the Torah, that became as healthy and vibrant as the average family in the United States during World War II. During World War II we had like 96% of the country believing in the teachings of Jesus Christ from children, being taught the exact Bible at four years old. There is nothing rigid about that. It stops people from wrongdoing. It stops people from lying., the fear of going to hell stopped couples from having sex before marriage. Like my parents they were afraid to do that because they thought it would ruin their lives. What a difference it made. And also the difference in me and my sister today, it even says if a child goes away from those teachings, long as they had them at birth, they will always come back…. And here I am… I am afraid to lie. I don’t have sex outside of marriage. I have biblical principles in my life, and only because I was taught these things when I was a little. I did go off the deep end. I went the other way I became a liberal I believed in a healthy sex life, I believe that divorce was OK for certain reasons…. It almost destroyed my life. It destroyed a lot of things in my life, but thank God I am healthy and I can finish my life the way most of my ancestors did…. Because they didn’t have the evil government removing the principles that everybody actually needs in their life. And I always reiterate., show me where people that believe the opposite of what I do, show me how that ever prospered anybody. Show me the healthy life that came from that.? It doesn’t exist. It ends up alone, single divorced, medicated, confused….. the typical modern American… my entire generation, single divorced… the ones that are still married sleep in separate rooms they have separate lives… the girls are all single divorced with cats and dogs… they don’t believe in the Bible… the kids are separate, some have been attacked, sexual lifestyles…. It’s brutal….. I actually have a lot of data… the proof is so visible, the other side of the argument is just peoples feelings, but there’s nothing to back it up. Just broken homes drugs. Mental illness. Suicide is through the roof and it’s the worst our society has ever seen. That’s all that has transpired from people believing that the Bible is not the way to go. I always ask somebody to show me the great results of people who believe otherwise compared to people who really love Jesus Christ, and understand he is God. There’s nothing radical about that. And it can be proven without a shadow of a doubt.
People also have to learn how to divorce. Unfortunately bc humans are stupid, they continue the dysfunction and trauma for the kids even after divorce. If these said kids are screwed up bc of divorce, they would have been screwed up anyway bc their parents are idiots. People don’t take parenting classes or even have a clue what they are doing bc you know….” They dont come with manuals “- bullshit!! There’s thousands of manuals- but humans have to stop being self-centered and put their phones down and actually do the hard work of parenting. Religion can teach us a lot, but not everything.
I have some great audio on those people with the AirPods, the phone and the shiatsu in the arms…. Men… these are men walking around like this… with the little box with the poop bags sticking out….. I can’t imagine what kind of woman that looks at that guy and says wow, now there’s the future father of my kids…..hahaha
Well….A man who is compassionate, loving, and nurturing enough to carry a dog—without worrying about self-righteous judgment—is exactly the kind of man I’d want as a father for my children. I’d take a kind and secure leader over a domineering, judgmental one any day.
I had one of those a-holes already and I divorced his ass.
Majority of Serial killers treat animals with kindness and compassion, and they nurture the animals. So do pedophiles and rapists, treating cats and dogs like children, very passionate and loving towards animals. How a man behaves with an animal is no sign of how a man will treat a human being. In fact, it’s just the opposite in most cases, because for the most part people who treat animals that way cannot care for human beings in the way man was actually created to do so. The biblical sense of a man is to nurture children and protect the women that give birth….. there is nothing similar in nurturing an animal. The idea of this being similar, comes from emotion and the deception of peoples thinking…. That oh the animals cute and look at the person loving on the animal they must be a good person. This is why the Bible says that the mind will deceive itself, and we should be aware of our emotions and our thoughts, as they are always self-deceptive. That’s why we have so many problems in society, that’s why people make the wrong choices in life, especially about marriage more than half the time. Over 50%. If people went with what was actually correct, instead of what they felt or what they thought, we wouldn’t have a lot of the problems we do today. It always brings me back to my point about the marriage, and the biblical marriage was always orchestrated by outsiders, like the rabbi, and the pastor being very involved before the couple made the commitment. I knew when I was a little kid that when I would be married, it would not be up to me alone to choose the girl, I would have rabbis for months, interviewing and going over a lot of things biblical with the two of us separately and together and also with the parents, with their background involved, and their values…. Otherwise, a couple with marie for the wrong reasons almost every time. And that’s why they removed the Bibles from the schools in the 60s., so they could actually create divorces, which they did by making legal divorce in 1969. And I always point out the data, by 1979 a gigantic boom in divorce drug use, and asexual society emerging, by the 80s, crack, cocaine, transvestite, prostitutes in public, aids, gay parades, and the normalization of all men having gay sex, especially married, straight men, boys with girlfriends…. Normalization of that. That’s where it came from…. Yes, these things were going on but they were stigmatized they were outside the thriving communities. It was unheard of almost in any decent community that a woman or man we talk about how they got rid of their wife or husband because of some problem…. Even if there were some problems somewhere, those things were so shunned, because the most important thing was the other people in the world, the children, the community God…. God came first even before the married couple. No matter how you slice it, the removal of that kind of mindset, into the self-centered, emotional-based society, and the escalation of everything destructive from the drugs, alcohol sexual diseases, until we got to a sexual education indoctrination of children in kindergarten, with an entire month of June, where pride of trans sexuality and homosexuality becomes the number one celebration in the country. Divorce is part of that…. It’s why they made divorce legal in 1969….. the same people that were behind the LGBT movement and sexualizing children, came from the same donors, the same money sources that pushed for that legislation, same people who pushed to remove the Bible, the people who found that kid to make the argument that any kind of religious study in school was offensive to kids who don’t believe in God. But it was only the old and New Testament they didn’t want… They certainly didn’t include Muslims, or the Krishna, or Buddhism, in fact, they allowed all kinds of mysticism astrology, Ekardt, Tolle, Deepak, Chopra, Rumi…. Teachings like that were actually promoted injected into our society, and a lot of musical groups, started to adopt those principles like the Beatles…. And just looking at their lives is a perfect reflection of what a disaster those kinds of beliefs end up creating. The man, nurturing a dog today is a total reflection of the rot of the family unit, end of the role of a man in society. If you truly believe the man who nurtures an animal, and holds a dog in his arms all day, he’s the kind of man that could raise children and be a good husband, you would most likely get somebody who would be a total deviant with human beings, someone who is into pornography, a total pervert, more likely, you would get a child molester then somebody who would actually be a good husband and father. Not to say that somebody who doesn’t like animals couldn’t be that way also. But the majority of men who care about animals, but would never have one in the house near a child for fear that the child and his wife would breath airborne feces and urine may be causing some kind of birth defects, illnesses, that is the guy that you would want to care for you and your family. Like my parents, and almost everybody in our communities in the 1960s would never have an animal in the house with the kids. And there was hardly any divorce. The kids were extremely healthy….. all the sickness didn’t come until liberalism and legal divorce. An abortion by planned parenthood was injected into our lives. And again., that would’ve never happened if they didn’t remove the Bible. And our parents would have known what was happening if the New York Times Wall Street Journal NPR PBS and all the main stream media wasn’t in cahoots with academia, lying, giving us false news and false everything in order to have our parents separated from the Board of Education in government that was absolutely attacking the family unit, attacking a church, removing God from our lives. And that’s why you have the man holding the dog today. Those men are the worst examples of what a man is supposed to do with his day I have ever seen in my entire life. And our society is a reflection of that behavior, 1000%
You’re correct…. That’s what I’m saying but, it Hass to be at birth… and it Hass to be like a curriculum with every community. Every child needs to have that lesson at birth, and it has to be drilled in every day….. like we need to get back to that. Kindergarten preschool Bible study…. That’s the manual he has everything from birth to death every kind of relationship every marriage. Everything is in there even explainable to a child…. Think about it they removed that book from the schools in 1962. Look at what happened. 1969 they had legal divorce and millions of abortions and tons of kids having sex without marriage…. Then came the drugs the crack. The aids. Transvestite prostitutes not getting arrested…. Night clubs with transvestites in drag queens, then gay parades until we have trans. Gender ideology, and school shooters……. It’s all one bowl of ungodly stuff, that you are correct it created the most ignorant and stupid society…. And the only solution is to start from the beginning. Forget everyone else they’re going to go there own moronic way and destroy themselves, and that also is written in the Bible. But we can bring it back to the little kids….. make it mandatory…. And people letting go of their emotional support animals and get some backbone. Hahaha
And it’s a little hard to tell somebody to put the phone down when they’re walking around with EarPods, holding a shiatsu in their arms and the phone… he wouldn’t believe the things I’ve yelled at those people….. and I don’t even get their head to turn…. They are very busy. Hahahah
Hi Bud. I was expecting your comment. 🙂 I’m going to have to politely disagree with you. These things may have led humanity to this point, and maybe they haven’t- but regardless we are here now as a society and you will never convince me an unhealthy marriage is better for kids than a divorce. Yes, we could and should be more mindful of our selections of spouses, unfortunately most humans lack that level of EQ and awareness. And not even Jesus can handle fools in love. But I wouldn’t go back and change a thing- I’m happy with the outcome of my divorce and the amazing 3 kids that came out of my marriage. I hope they take on their mom & dad’s best qualities and ditch the rest. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. Even the way society is today.
I have a group of friends from the Jersey shore. We are getting together to do audio and other things about divorce, and what he did to our communities.. some of these kids are famous they’ve been on TV shows, movies, in the NFL, supermodels, many of them have been at the highest level of industries, the best looking most healthiest, looking kids you ever saw in your life, everybody thinks they are great, and today great adults, except they are divorced. They have messed up kids., and nobody has any idea of what we were doing and I’m talking a huge crew of over 50 guys, hundreds of girls, and people we know around the world in all the cities, Miami, Los Angeles, New York City, the Jersey shore, I’m talking 100% 100% of everyone of these guys was so immoral in their sexual behavior, everybody was doing drugs, doing illegal things, beyond belief, and nobody has any idea outside of those circles…. Look at the P Diddy newsfeeds…. Those things go on and have been going on in houses all over the country in penthouses hotels, islands., I’ve seen them I’ve been there… the rooms of AA tens of millions successful people people that look great act great have everything going on it seems… total disasters, disgusting and behavior in the way they talk how they think they are cheaters liars. Divorced families. Almost all of them came from broken homes. There is such data here…. That the idea that some kids benefit from the divorced family…. It is just a tiny number…. It’s what for divorce lawyers want you to think it’s what they’re teaching at school, even a Church in Synagogue now is OK with divorce if there’s abuse…. If there’s abuse in one family., you’re talking, millions of people are getting divorced without the abuse… most people get divorced because they’re unhappy. It’s not from abuse., and just because someone’s getting drunk or their verbally abusive, and two years go by, and somebody is unhappy, they think that’s an excuse to get divorced, when both people are lying, they are not honest with each other or themselves… I mean, there are so many levels…. And I’ve done my diligence. My research is so sound in the subject matter….. it is beyond comprehension what has happened since 1969 you should look at 1979 at 30% of the country getting divorced including all the movie stars Rockstars everybody got divorced once it was legal, there wasn’t any real abuse going on. They were just unhappy and the verbal abuse and other things starts happening when people don’t honor each other when they don’t care about anyone but themselves…. You’re supposed to give everything to your spouse, cherish the spouse more than yourself. That’s a marriage. There should be no self in the marriage. And that should be the end of the story forever until the couple dies. Because it’s about gods community of people not about the personal satisfaction and happiness. We really have to get back to that. I don’t think there is ever going to be a solution with divorce because it’s causing have to country to be divorced…. It’s like pointing out abortion is OK because of the rape victim. It is one rape victim and 100 million other abortions that are not from rape it’s from beautiful girls getting abortions because their boyfriends want it that’s how we got our abortions. Never heard of one person getting raped and needing an abortion…. That is a news story that is rare…. Compared to the tens of millions that just get abortions because it’s convenient. Same with divorce. I rest my case… haha :)
And when you look at the numbers…. The child abuse, that’s a different story in the numbers are low compared to how many married couples there were. The bad marriage can be worked out…. You can also be kept from the kids in all kinds of ways. Another problem. Self-centeredness selfish parents. People who are unhappy, a woman who was unhappy, a husband, who is unhappy., they tell them selves that it’s better for the children to get divorced when the reality is nobody’s willing to sacrifice their unhappiness to keep the marriage together. And again the marriage vow is for better or worse. If somebody has a worse marriage, and then they get divorced they are liars. So no matter what anybody says the kids SEE to parents that made a covenant a promise, and then broke that promise which is a lie. Those kids grow up thinking it’s OK to lie in front of people if it means their happiness. There are so many things wrong with divorce on so many levels. It does nothing good for the kids. It is a lie that people tell them selves. The data will show you 70 million kids today that are completely messed up with broken homes….. if there’s one kid out of 1 million that turns out really well… that cannot justify divorce. You’re talking tens of millions of kids over decades on drugs, alcohol sexual diseases, medicated, suicides. Suicide is up 4000% with kids from broken homes….. the only people who think divorce is really good for the children are parents who are unhappy, and unwilling to do what it takes. It is absolutely self-centered people who will not sacrifice their own happiness. And this brings me back to the biblical principles where God does not care about a couples happiness. Marriage is not for the man and woman to be happy. It is for the procreation of children had to show the children that marriage is something that cannot be broken. And when the kids grow up with this idea, they don’t have a culture where there’s divorce. So they are very careful when they get married. The whole thing is wrong because the culture is wrong and to believe that well., that’s just our society today…. That’s what’s wrong with the society. That’s what causes more of the problem that people are willing to accept the culture. We need to fight the culture change it…. Bring back stigma…. Get rid of programs get rid of divorce lawyers make divorce illegal…. And that will prevent a lot of people from getting married to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Show me somebody who’s getting divorced and I will show you a couple that should’ve never been married. Red flags all over the place on both sides. Stupidity, ignorance, selfishness going into the marriage, stupidity, selfishness, ignorance, breaking up the marriage. And the kids suffer. If you can find kids that don’t suffer., there’s 20 million that are suffering and that will never be correct. They will never be honest they will never have a good reflection of what life is supposed to be because of the mother and father living in a cultural rat, where divorce is OK after you promise not to get divorced. Whatever happened to keeping your word.? For better or worse? So there is a certain type of worse that’s not included? Hahsha that’s not a marriage. Those people should be getting married with a different set of rules., like I promise to stay married to you, unless I don’t like it unless there’s some abuse then we’re getting divorced…. That’s a joke…. And that’s what we have as a society. It’s really horrible. Today’s society is terrible. The culture sucks. It is no good for kids. It’s no good for parents….. we have a really bad rotting decaying society and kids are even more sexual and messed up than ever…. That’s a fact. Otherwise we wouldn’t have school shooters transvestites in the Olympics and kids thinking they can be a different gender. It started with sex, education, legal divorce. And Planned Parenthood.. those three things destroyed our society look at before 1969 when divorce was illegal. Healthy communities. Regardless of any abuse going on in families 99% of kids from married families were thriving the ones that stayed together….. because they sacrificed their happiness for the children…. We need to get back to that. I am a Warrior to get back to those principles bring the Bible back to kindergarten and you will see in 20 years total difference….. bring back illegal divorce, and make people think before they get married…. We need something better than just accepting that this is the way it is… and again, just like the online bullying happens to almost nobody compared to how many kids are sexualized, which is 100% of them in kindergarten…. The kids who are OK after a divorce is like one out of 1 million…. And most parents won’t even see it because the kids aren’t showing the parents what’s going on in their lives behind their backs….. the kids are stupid. They are ignorant, sexual, and mentally hindered as a generation for the last 30 years worse than ever
I will never ever say or think anyone should just walk away from their marriage bc of a bad season or hard time or unhealthy learned habits. Psychology and attachment styles play a lot in this, another thing religion can’t help parents with bc it’s not about morals or values but habits and discipline styles. I fought for my marriage for years. I even became lovingly submissive the way “god says to” and trusted him to take the lead as the head of our family. Instead he left us home alone half the time while he galavanted all over the country for work using viagra and banging all of his mistresses and side pieces. After dealing with that for years- enough was enough. I’ll be dammed if my kids grow up thinking that’s how shits done- fuck that. And if God has a problem with that, maybe he should have worked harder on that man’s hardened heart. (Another sin btw)
Take a look at the guy that did this to you in marriage… his background, his parents, his belief or not belief…. You can’t get into the biblical principles after the marriage….. what I’m saying is we need to get back, we need to bring back the Bible to the four year olds in the five year olds, so they believe in hell as a real place that they could possibly end up if they do the wrong things against God. That one thing, that fear, that kept 96% of the country in line for almost 200 years. My mother side of the family can be traced back almost 3000 years without any breaks in the marriages…. Because they feared God…. So there was no worry about anything else…. The reality that there’s life after death that somebody could go to hell….. people say that’s a horrible thing to teach a kid? The Board of Education in the government came up with that lie and paid Harvard professors billions in endowments to back that science up… so they could scare kids with climate racism, global warming save the planet, save the animals, every kind of sexual teaching, evolution that we came from apes… so Kids will just think their animals, and things like marriage and real love are just things that can be broken or changed depending on an emotion and making emotions important like a kid’s emotions are important. That was the opposite of what we used to learn in school. Kids were taught emotions are worthless and they can lead to the wrong decisions. That there is a right and wrong way to live according to the Bible and it has the opposite to do with the emotion and how people feel. A child is not supposed to care how he feels or she feels instead, they should care more about God and the word of God and obey the parents who follow the word of God. Crazy idea.? But it works. It’s what actually built this country. The removal of those principles is tearing down the country to the point of the school shooter transgendersm surgeries for little kids mental illness suicide….. divorce…. More than 50% of people get divorced…. You can throw divorcing with the rest of the rot because the marriages were no good to begin with. You see what I’m saying.? This guy you’re talking about sounds like every guy I’ve known in my entire life. Almost all men are like that….. and the ones that seem really nice and they’re not like that? They have other issues and they hide it better….. the pornography, the sexuality…. It is brutal and I’m talking like every dude. You wouldn’t believe the doctors lawyers all the married men that I saw at these parties in crack hotels in fancy penthouses mansions with prostitutes, all kinds of things going on and then they go back home to their wives… this is all over the country everywhere would like every dude I’ve ever known… the only people I know that aren’t like that are serious, God-fearing people and it’s very few when it comes to men. And the thing about women that are good and don’t behave like that….. they don’t believe in God…. So they trust the wrong people, they trust in men instead of God, or like you talk about you try to do some thing a little later in life, when we should just really look at how we can prevent the next generation from having the problems. You are correct that our society has gotten to a place where it’s almost impossible to change the 30 or 40 year old…. The person who’s married now… that’s almost an impossibility. But if we bring the book back into the kindergarten….. can change society the other way we can bring it back to an old time where marriage was forever till death… where people fear God…. My mother had fear, so did my dad…. I’m sure they had other things on your mind. Sometimes who knows I know my mother didn’t, but my father was an elite athlete., race car driver, worldly guy…. He told me when he got married. He sacrificed everything for my mom.. he would not drive a Porsche, or a motorcycle, he would not look at other women, and I know my friends mom who look like Joanne Feldman was after him for years she told me later in life that he was the only guy that never gave her the time of day. She used to go to my baseball games and try to hit on my father and he would move. He cherished my mother… and it was more than just loving her… his family brought him up, telling him that if he ever disrespected his wife in any way…. He would go to hell. And he would be living in hell forever…. He might not have believed it…. But he wasn’t sure. And there is the difference. The fact that there might be hell, it might be real….. it ruins peoples good time to go flirt to go cheat to lie… it kind of puts a damper on those things. It certainly does with me…. I can’t tell you how different my life is because of that fear. And that’s because I died in 1998 and I actually popped out of my body and got taken down to that place for a couple seconds before I got taken up into the clouds….. it’s real. That’s why the only answer is to bring back the book teach kids from birth that it’s real. Even if they go astray., even if they deny it, and say they don’t believe… a little doubt will change everything in their life. Everything will be different because of that doubt. Today we have people that don’t believe that all they are convinced there’s no such thing as heaven or hell. With that mindset., we have no chance for anything really good as a society… going to be just a lot of sad stories and people trying to figure stuff out and it’s not going to work… it’s not working… I mean it is a disaster when you look at almost every kid today… absolute disasters… and if they are doing OK… ignorance, and stupidity, plagues them… we have an ignorant society, and that breeds stupidity. The real wisdom in life comes from that fear of God. The decisions people make when they fear God are very wise. Decisions that people make when they don’t fear God.? Well, you can see those kinds of decisions in real time…. They are always selfish based on somebody’s feelings, and not the fear of God. People try to make themselves happy…. And that’s a huge problem. That is not wise. Someone’s own happiness is irrelevant…. Because there’s really no such thing as somebody making themselves happier by changing something in their life, because the happiness usually comes from being selfless…. True happiness comes from serving others, and not one’s self. The more someone tries to make themselves happy by changing their life the more self-centered they are. I’m gonna stop now because I could just keep going forever. Hahaha
There’s the problem… you’re accepting the unfortunate society and the people who have that unfortunate thinking you’re accepting it. You’re going with the culture. This will never benefit society on a hold. Kids will continue getting worse. There will be more sickness more murder, more rape, early or death and less family units less property ownership if anybody thinks that’s OK like that’s just the way our society is…. You’re excepting the decline and the eventual wiping out of the greatest country on earth, which is almost on its way.
You are probably right on where things are going- however there is a lot of emotional freedom in radically accepting things as they are. Who are we to say what someone should think or believe or how to live their lives? Be gay, get divorced, be obese, be lazy, gossip, lie, cheat, have sex while on your period, have a throuple- hell, identify as a damn dog for all I care- those of which are just a few of the 600+ sins in the Christian Bible- we ALL sin differently. That’s a fact. Religion never has automatically instilled morals or ethics in anyone, many shielding their sins behind their God acting self-righteous. Maybe, just maybe, if we all stopped caring about what every one else was doing and how they sin, we’d focus more on ourselves and be a better society. All the divorcees, gays, straights, Christian’s and Jews and all the binary individuals can live happily together on a shared planet God put us all on together. Humans fight and passionately disagree over the dumbest things and still haven’t learned the purpose of life.
Thank you for reading and supporting my article. I wish there were a better education system for divorcing parents to handle this better. Was there a part that hit home more?
I have thought about your post ALL DAY today. Thank you again for getting it all down and out there. 🙏
Polly- this is the absolute best compliment. Thank you. It keeps me inspired. 💜
Been through two divorces and anyone unfortunate enough to be going through one should absorb all of this.
My girls from my first marriage are now in their early 20s and made it through every other week parenting. After almost 20 years from the first marriage ending, I can look back and say we're both probably better off for it and happier.
The biggest regret is all the missed time that I would've had with my daughters had we remained together. But, oh yeah, there were weeks when I dropped them off that I would've happily just booted both of them out of the car without stopping (and there were weeks when the ex felt the same too! lol). Parenting, not for the faint of heart!
Hi Bryant. Thank you for commenting. First, I agree with your first comment about keeping religion to ourselves- 100%!! Thank you.
And yes, parenting is definitely not for the faint of heart, especially single parenthood. I too have days when I can't wait for them to go to their dad's bc they are driving me nuts. And I also have somber days when I wish they could stay with me forever.
I remind myself this was the best decision I ever made and divorce is what actually gave my kids a chance in life, bc we were just so toxic together. I don't know what goes on at their father's home, but the home they have with me is safe and quiet (for the most part) and a soft place for them to land. Divorce is hard at first, but staying in a toxic relationship that is never going to change is harder.
FWIW, they'll always drive you nuts :)
I was just thinking of my Mom and youngest brother. She stayed with his Dad for him (a true narcicist), which was not good for anyone but that asshat.
And as for the Biblical institution of marriage, lol, which kind -- the kind where you get to have concubines? Marry your brother's wife if he dies? Have multiple wives? I think there's another flavor or three in there too.
Anyways, great piece and even as it sucks you did the right thing.
The fact that anyone thinks that divorce could be amazing for the kids is a total lie. Before 1969 when legal divorce was passed in California., we did not have anything like kids on meds, crack, transvestite, prostitutes, walking the streets of the cities, rehabs for millions of kids, rooms full of people at AA all over the nation, talking about sobriety, we didn’t have sex education with Planned Parenthood and abortions with kids having sex for years with her boyfriends and girlfriends and never getting married… this happened in the 70s after they removed the Bible from the schools in the 60s and people were afraid to get divorced because it was a sin against God it actually says that the parents will both be cursed and so will the kids. And that’s exactly what happened to millions of children from divorced families after 69, 30% of the country became divorced, and those kids were destroyed in their behaviors, the partying the drugs and sex. In the 70s the biggest parties in the suburbs we’re in the houses where it was just the mom. The father had left and married a younger woman, those houses became party houses, because there was no father in the house…. Nobody worried about doing drugs, smoking weed and everybody’s house with the mom there….. it was the Democratic Party. It was the government. It was planned parenthood, and other organizations that orchestrated all of it so that Kids would be destroyed, ruining the family unit attacking the church…. Sex education eventually turn into trans.education, hormones in surgery, non-binary the phrase like transgender coming out of academia, Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Oxford dictionary, putting those things in there, so the kids believe in it as a real thing divorce is part of this. There is nothing good about divorce not to mention both parties become liars. The reflection of a child, thinking two people can make a promise, a covenant in front of witnesses in front of God, till death do us part., and then break the promise…. They are liars…. That is a lesson to children that you can lie about anything the most important thing on earth is the marriage covenant., and now it could be broken and it’s actually a great thing for kids? If there’s abuse in a marriage the couple shouldn’t have gotten married probably but still that is the worst part, cheating is another, worst part, and he promised for better or worse so you stay married even if it’s bad, because it’s not about the couples happiness, it’s about having to stay together, and make it work no matter what, for the children and for society and the community. Anybody who is telling the world that divorce is even considerable as something good, they need to get with God, and understand what marriage is. There is no divorce according to God because the couple becomes 1 flesh… you cannot separate yourself from yourself. And that kind of mentality prevents people from marrying for the wrong reasons like for money or Security or because they are just attracted.. or they fall in love they think that’s a reason… people fall in love with the wrong people all the time you’re not supposed to marry them. You’re not even supposed to have sex before marriage you’re supposed to marry somebody equally yoked in values…. People who believe in God, or you don’t get married. But the idea that people get married, knowing they can get divorced.? that’s not a marriage that’s fake. And that’s why we have sex education with transvestites drag queens and we get trans. Children school shooters…… and there is nothing good about any of this divorce is evil, divorce, lawyers, are against God, sex education is evil, and so is two people having sex outside of marriage. It’s a serious crime against God that happens inside the body… against the persons soul…. And if I’m wrong, then show me how great this country is and how great the children are doing…. 70 million kids today almost half of them say they are non-binary. They are into gay sex….. divorce is horrendous because that’s what it led to. And that’s the end of the story. We need to get back to biblical principles if this country has a chance of children growing up to prosper and build communities and own property.. this title should’ve been divorced sucks. And no other words after that.
Yeah. Nope. I'd posit that the world would be a much better place if you simply practiced your religion quietly and left everyone else the fuck alone.
Really the world would be a better place? Why don’t you look at the data of how many people don’t even pay attention to biblical principles anymore. And look what happened in 80 years to the world. Your world is a disgusting cesspool because people aren’t sharing the word. We have little kids getting surgeries their genitals cut off without their parents permission at UCLA Children’s Hospital and also at Boston and others. That never happened when 96% of the country was going to church. With your idea, keeping the F quiet., and also using words like the F word which is destroying the integrity. It is offensive to billions of people and keeping kids dumped down, which is making this world, a horrible place specially the United States., and in your world today because people aren’t sharing the word, we have a whole month of parades in the cities where 13-year-old boys dressed in girls bikinis wearing angel wings are dancing around two songs being cheered on by old men, dressed in drag with microphones and women coming with children to get gift bags from major corporations, alerted by school officials, telling the parents to bring their kids to the pornographic parades. So yeah, the world will be a much better place.? Your idea of a better place in the world by people like me keeping quiet has caused school shooters that have been sexualized since kindergarten reading books like lawn boy about a pedophile rainbow dinosaur about gay animals, trans, sexual children, growing up to be medicated sexual, and having a hard time ever making any money or having children getting married and owning property…. Which is what has been happening for the last 40 years, especially in the last 15. The ignorance and stupidity is so palpable with your kind of thinking and it is you, and your mindset, that has actually made this world disgusting compared to what it was just 60 years ago. We didn’t have anything in school. We didn’t have school shooters. We didn’t have-year-olds on medication. We didn’t hear about all this down syndrome and other plagues destroying our children. We didn’t have sex books in the children’s section of the library. We never heard the word transgender because it would be insane to think somebody could change their gender but now over 40% of every kid in school believe so. I would love you to tell me how the world would be a better place without people like me telling people the truth about how disgusting their mind is when they are removed from the word of God and the biblical principles that by the way, this country was founded on. Our rights as American citizens come directly from the Bible and not government. And when they have that Bible in the school in 1960 there was no such thing as sex education. There was no such thing as a boy being able to go into the girls room and sexually abuse her by taking off his clothes or being dressed like the girl….. if you think these things make the world better, you should look at your sick and twisted ideas and realize they are backwards. And if you use the F word thinking it is cool or a great word to emphasize a sentence, it does not, it is a reflection of complete ignorance and stupidity and facilitates even more of the same in the next generation of people coming up believing there are 72 genders…. And there are over 250 million people in the country that agree with me., so there’s more ignorance in your thinking, though you are in with the leaders of North Korea, China, India, Venezuela, Cuba, Argentina, the ungodly socialist that loves to control the population and oppress their people… they would love you to move there and join them in your insanity.
Generalization is a toxic trait
I don’t know if it’s toxic but it’s ignorant and stupid, generalizing. But say you take a in the field survey, a in-depth analysis over a five year period, and examine tens of thousands of men in one city, literally taking photographs interviewing and observing in multiple locations every day seven days a week from morning till early evening, every food store shop café, sidewalk, block by block, and you observe and photograph more than 90% of every man with a dog, and many of them, holding the dog, over 50%, holding and kissing the dog on the head and rubbing it. And you end up trying to actually find 10 guys in the morning without dogs, out of hundreds, and you can’t find 10. You can’t find five. Could you come up with a realistic analysis that’s not generalization? Absolutely. You could come up with a total in-depth analysis that there is a sickness amongst men in that major city, and then, by doing some other research, you could find out just how many dogs per household there are, approximately, and then go back and look at the difference in the decades. From 1 million dogs, to explosion of 5 million dogs, and then you could put up the analysis of how many suicides, mental illness, broken homes, single men, homosexuality, skyrocketing. None of this would be a generalization. It would be actual science and not the kind of science we get from academia. It would be an on the ground in the field first hand account of what is happening to our society, especially the men. And just before I got this text message., in front of my Chase Bank, where I saw at least three guys go into the bank with giant dogs. Were they have dog food treats on the counter, I’m watching a guy at the ATM, pick up his filthy dog off the ground, holding it in his left arm, kissing the top of its head, and letting the dog lick his face, as he’s waiting for his money, rubbing the dog with the other hand, and kissing it even more… I’m at the point where I’m trying to find guys that don’t behave this way. There aren’t that many in Los Angeles. People in New York City are behaving the same way, especially in the last 15 years. Pregnant women have been behaving this way with their dogs in the last 20 years like an explosion in animism, we have never seen, and coincidentally, we have the greatest amount of down syndrome and birth defects we’ve ever seen in a 15 year span in the history of the United States. I’ve heard every doctor scientist professors all claim they can’t figure out why and they are working on it. They mentioned the foods. GMOs…. But they won’t even look at the pet.? The dog in the arms of a pregnant woman who’s kissing the dog, breathing in airborne feces? Airborne dried urine? But they will tell you mice poop has pathogens and bacteria that cause illness and death. And that is 100% true. Even poop from mice outside on the steps in bushes can infect humans. But a litter box in the house.? that’s considered healthy because it’s a house pet according to Oxford, Princeton Yale Harvard science. Those institutions have been instrumental at causing illness and all kinds of mental illness because of sexuality climate initiatives, that they make billions of endowments on., and I believe the same goes for pet ownership. So I totally agree with you about generalization, and I would never do something like that., I wouldn’t speak about something like this, until I spent years looking at enough people to know that this is beyond a problem…. It’s a total crisis with men in our country, at least in the major cities…. I would say that in the rural communities it is probably not there yet, we have maybe some more conservative minds, and more normal people in between the coastal regions, as liberalism and the absence of biblical principles in the coastal regions, and the schools have permeated those societies with everything from sexuality to pet ownership… those are the number one issues people care about their own loves of their sex, and what they love to love, whether it’s an animal, or their own behaviors.. people celebrate their behavior today in the streets in June. That’s not a generalization I’ve seen thousands show up every summer in support of these things. Millions of people come into the city to celebrate, homosexuality and transsexuals….. that’s not a generalization. And guess what almost 100% of them have? Dogs. Almost all of them…. Walking and holding them, not to mention the receptacles overflowing with feces on every corner.. walking around with bags of poop in their hand… breathing in that stuff every day. Now it’s in the bed on the furniture in the car and then all the stores. No longer can a landlord keep pets out of their building in Los Angeles devalues the property and it’s causing sickness. No longer can a store prevent someone from going into the store with an animal. The owners aren’t allowed to approach the people with the animal. Even though there are signs with all the health codes saying no pets allowed. Gavin Newsom made policies that override peoples principles, and also lowering the quality of life for millions of people who don’t want to be around other people’s animals. The self-centeredness and the narcissism is on a magnitude we’ve never seen in our lifetime. I have hundreds of photographs from seven days a week to back up what I am talking about… not to mention Planned Parenthood, NAACP, Comcast Viacom, the LGBT organizations, and government subsidizing agencies, they are all involved in getting as many people to own dogs as possible…. The same people that are pushing abortion, who celebrate sexuality, who claim to help black communities, but actually destroy them, and set up section 8 housing, they are also funding, pet ownership, and getting subsidies so people who normally couldn’t afford a dog now can get free everything including veterinary care. They opened up a multi million dollar shelter in LA so homeless people can have dogs and bring them there to get care…. What does that tell you? The thing is, if anybody tries to argue on the contrary, there’s just no defense of what’s happening. None of this is good for a community that wants to have children who are healthy and can prosper and end up owning property. In fact, it all goes against property ownership, and generational wealth. The same people that are burning down cities like Malibu and the Palisades and now trying to condemn the properties so people cannot rebuild anything but condos which people don’t own the actual property they just on the unit…. These are animal rights, activist people that work for the government that are helping get animals into peoples homes. Dogs in the arms of men….. that’s what we have on a massive scale… I could show you in real time with the video every single morning in different locations from every side of the city… it is stunning…. The love of the dog has replaced the love of God and the love of children. People don’t care that there are giants stages set up every summer with 13 year old boys dressed in girls bikinis with angel wings. Dancing to routines…. It’s going to happen again this June for a whole month… there was a time before men were holding dogs in their arms by the millions, we are no man whatever raise a child to think that they could do something like this, especially in public, and have a celebration? Nationwide? There’s no generalization when the holy land has these parades in Tel Aviv every summer….. it’s no generalization that hundreds of millions of mothers around the world have the biggest fear of their children being exposed to the sexuality…. And the men with the dogs all day picking up crap off the ground three times a day seven days a week., that’s a total reflection of why we have these kinds of issues… it is a disaster for our country.
I appreciate your passion for faith, Bud, but I don’t subscribe to a fundamentalist approach to religion. I believe in a faith that uplifts rather than restricts, that connects rather than isolates. We all need a little Jesus, (or religion of choice) and even those who have found Him could use a little more of the real Jesus—the one who led with love, grace, and understanding, not rigid rules and control or brainwashing. Faith should empower, not overpower. And not everything can be prayed away.
We also can’t go back in time a change generations of mistakes so the best we can do is break the cycles now and I’m doing that the best I can with me and my own family. Again, we aren’t living thousands of years ago when the Bible was written (by men) so unless you are spearing your fish every day and sharing your loaves of bread with the village, I think we have to live in the modern world and adjust our sails.
That’s where I stand.
The Bible was written by over 40 authors over thousands of years, and every single chapter conned perfectly from genesis to revelation. And having a little Jesus, that’s liberalism. And he didn’t come about love at all. That’s another false teaching about the Bible. He came to warn the Israelites about the sin in their life. He came to warn people that there was a real place called hell, a physical place that most people are going to go if they’re not in line with God. It is peoples own ideas that just feel better that they are living by and those ideas are devastating and have destroyed what made this country absolutely prosperous compared to almost every nation on earth. If the Bible wasn’t 100%, correct, then India would be a super power, so with China, so with North Korea, Russia would’ve never lost their power… turkey Venezuela Cuba, Egypt, Rome….. all these countries have those kinds of ideas outside of the biblical principles that this country was founded on, George Washington did not believe in having a little Jesus he was full blown, lover of God, the way the Bible teaches. Jesus was not about love and peace… he talked about hell way more than Heaven. He talks about having fear of God because God is real, it’s not something people can just make up their own ideas about and think they are going to have a great lives. Most people that take a little bit of the Bible that is good and reject the rest and call it rigid or some kind of radical ideas or too strict, you can look at their lives, and it’s full of mistakes, full of devastating choices that do not profit, broken families, broken marriage and broken communities…. It’s how people end up under authoritarian regimes. The rigidity of the teaching of Jesus Christ is the only way we ever had a United States for almost 200 years, becoming a super power faster than countries that believed, in other things for thousands of years. Like India, where people still die from pestilence disease in the billions…. Where are places like China have people living in concentration camps it’s why they put Christians in jails… Christianity actually prosper’s children and families if they follow those doctrines with all their mind, body and soul. The thing about love in Jesus was that we are to love God with all the power we have in our soul, and with that love is how we love the spouse and the children…. And that kind of love prevents a lot of evil…. They prevent the pedophile it keeps those numbers low. It keeps abuse low. It has kept those things at a very low number for those religious sectors since the beginning of time. No matter how you slice it, people who talk about love, and that the Bible is no good in some ways, that’s liberalism. That’s where we get all the worst things in this country that are happening today. If we didn’t have transgender school shooters crack age and gay parades, drag queen, transvestite, prostitutes, not being arrested, in 1960, then, what’s the difference from 1960 till today? What is the biggest difference? It is that rigidity of the Bible that was talk to every child at four years old in preschool. It was that rigidity of Jesus Christ very strict warning about what would happen if people went anywhere outside those principles, and the Bible is 1000%, correct. Everything the Bible says will happen to children and families, if they do not adhere to the word., everyone of those things has happened. And that’s another thing the prophecy of what it says has come true. So there’s really no defense of the liberal ideas that we need a little Jesus and we can navigate with our own emotions and the way we feel about things.. human beings will destroy their own lives with their own thoughts and feelings. That’s why the Bible teachings have nothing to do with peoples emotions and it is not rigid when you realize, how beautiful and healthy over 90% of the families in the United States were, including the black communities, which has less than 2% divorce, before they removed the teachings of the Bible from children. We have a society today that has grown up without any of those teachings., so the average adult today, they believe watching their own mind, they didn’t have that structure that foundation that is vital for a prosperous society. And I just point out, show me one nation that raised their children, any other way, but the teachings of Jesus Christ, and the Torah, that became as healthy and vibrant as the average family in the United States during World War II. During World War II we had like 96% of the country believing in the teachings of Jesus Christ from children, being taught the exact Bible at four years old. There is nothing rigid about that. It stops people from wrongdoing. It stops people from lying., the fear of going to hell stopped couples from having sex before marriage. Like my parents they were afraid to do that because they thought it would ruin their lives. What a difference it made. And also the difference in me and my sister today, it even says if a child goes away from those teachings, long as they had them at birth, they will always come back…. And here I am… I am afraid to lie. I don’t have sex outside of marriage. I have biblical principles in my life, and only because I was taught these things when I was a little. I did go off the deep end. I went the other way I became a liberal I believed in a healthy sex life, I believe that divorce was OK for certain reasons…. It almost destroyed my life. It destroyed a lot of things in my life, but thank God I am healthy and I can finish my life the way most of my ancestors did…. Because they didn’t have the evil government removing the principles that everybody actually needs in their life. And I always reiterate., show me where people that believe the opposite of what I do, show me how that ever prospered anybody. Show me the healthy life that came from that.? It doesn’t exist. It ends up alone, single divorced, medicated, confused….. the typical modern American… my entire generation, single divorced… the ones that are still married sleep in separate rooms they have separate lives… the girls are all single divorced with cats and dogs… they don’t believe in the Bible… the kids are separate, some have been attacked, sexual lifestyles…. It’s brutal….. I actually have a lot of data… the proof is so visible, the other side of the argument is just peoples feelings, but there’s nothing to back it up. Just broken homes drugs. Mental illness. Suicide is through the roof and it’s the worst our society has ever seen. That’s all that has transpired from people believing that the Bible is not the way to go. I always ask somebody to show me the great results of people who believe otherwise compared to people who really love Jesus Christ, and understand he is God. There’s nothing radical about that. And it can be proven without a shadow of a doubt.
People also have to learn how to divorce. Unfortunately bc humans are stupid, they continue the dysfunction and trauma for the kids even after divorce. If these said kids are screwed up bc of divorce, they would have been screwed up anyway bc their parents are idiots. People don’t take parenting classes or even have a clue what they are doing bc you know….” They dont come with manuals “- bullshit!! There’s thousands of manuals- but humans have to stop being self-centered and put their phones down and actually do the hard work of parenting. Religion can teach us a lot, but not everything.
I have some great audio on those people with the AirPods, the phone and the shiatsu in the arms…. Men… these are men walking around like this… with the little box with the poop bags sticking out….. I can’t imagine what kind of woman that looks at that guy and says wow, now there’s the future father of my kids…..hahaha
Well….A man who is compassionate, loving, and nurturing enough to carry a dog—without worrying about self-righteous judgment—is exactly the kind of man I’d want as a father for my children. I’d take a kind and secure leader over a domineering, judgmental one any day.
I had one of those a-holes already and I divorced his ass.
Majority of Serial killers treat animals with kindness and compassion, and they nurture the animals. So do pedophiles and rapists, treating cats and dogs like children, very passionate and loving towards animals. How a man behaves with an animal is no sign of how a man will treat a human being. In fact, it’s just the opposite in most cases, because for the most part people who treat animals that way cannot care for human beings in the way man was actually created to do so. The biblical sense of a man is to nurture children and protect the women that give birth….. there is nothing similar in nurturing an animal. The idea of this being similar, comes from emotion and the deception of peoples thinking…. That oh the animals cute and look at the person loving on the animal they must be a good person. This is why the Bible says that the mind will deceive itself, and we should be aware of our emotions and our thoughts, as they are always self-deceptive. That’s why we have so many problems in society, that’s why people make the wrong choices in life, especially about marriage more than half the time. Over 50%. If people went with what was actually correct, instead of what they felt or what they thought, we wouldn’t have a lot of the problems we do today. It always brings me back to my point about the marriage, and the biblical marriage was always orchestrated by outsiders, like the rabbi, and the pastor being very involved before the couple made the commitment. I knew when I was a little kid that when I would be married, it would not be up to me alone to choose the girl, I would have rabbis for months, interviewing and going over a lot of things biblical with the two of us separately and together and also with the parents, with their background involved, and their values…. Otherwise, a couple with marie for the wrong reasons almost every time. And that’s why they removed the Bibles from the schools in the 60s., so they could actually create divorces, which they did by making legal divorce in 1969. And I always point out the data, by 1979 a gigantic boom in divorce drug use, and asexual society emerging, by the 80s, crack, cocaine, transvestite, prostitutes in public, aids, gay parades, and the normalization of all men having gay sex, especially married, straight men, boys with girlfriends…. Normalization of that. That’s where it came from…. Yes, these things were going on but they were stigmatized they were outside the thriving communities. It was unheard of almost in any decent community that a woman or man we talk about how they got rid of their wife or husband because of some problem…. Even if there were some problems somewhere, those things were so shunned, because the most important thing was the other people in the world, the children, the community God…. God came first even before the married couple. No matter how you slice it, the removal of that kind of mindset, into the self-centered, emotional-based society, and the escalation of everything destructive from the drugs, alcohol sexual diseases, until we got to a sexual education indoctrination of children in kindergarten, with an entire month of June, where pride of trans sexuality and homosexuality becomes the number one celebration in the country. Divorce is part of that…. It’s why they made divorce legal in 1969….. the same people that were behind the LGBT movement and sexualizing children, came from the same donors, the same money sources that pushed for that legislation, same people who pushed to remove the Bible, the people who found that kid to make the argument that any kind of religious study in school was offensive to kids who don’t believe in God. But it was only the old and New Testament they didn’t want… They certainly didn’t include Muslims, or the Krishna, or Buddhism, in fact, they allowed all kinds of mysticism astrology, Ekardt, Tolle, Deepak, Chopra, Rumi…. Teachings like that were actually promoted injected into our society, and a lot of musical groups, started to adopt those principles like the Beatles…. And just looking at their lives is a perfect reflection of what a disaster those kinds of beliefs end up creating. The man, nurturing a dog today is a total reflection of the rot of the family unit, end of the role of a man in society. If you truly believe the man who nurtures an animal, and holds a dog in his arms all day, he’s the kind of man that could raise children and be a good husband, you would most likely get somebody who would be a total deviant with human beings, someone who is into pornography, a total pervert, more likely, you would get a child molester then somebody who would actually be a good husband and father. Not to say that somebody who doesn’t like animals couldn’t be that way also. But the majority of men who care about animals, but would never have one in the house near a child for fear that the child and his wife would breath airborne feces and urine may be causing some kind of birth defects, illnesses, that is the guy that you would want to care for you and your family. Like my parents, and almost everybody in our communities in the 1960s would never have an animal in the house with the kids. And there was hardly any divorce. The kids were extremely healthy….. all the sickness didn’t come until liberalism and legal divorce. An abortion by planned parenthood was injected into our lives. And again., that would’ve never happened if they didn’t remove the Bible. And our parents would have known what was happening if the New York Times Wall Street Journal NPR PBS and all the main stream media wasn’t in cahoots with academia, lying, giving us false news and false everything in order to have our parents separated from the Board of Education in government that was absolutely attacking the family unit, attacking a church, removing God from our lives. And that’s why you have the man holding the dog today. Those men are the worst examples of what a man is supposed to do with his day I have ever seen in my entire life. And our society is a reflection of that behavior, 1000%
You’re correct…. That’s what I’m saying but, it Hass to be at birth… and it Hass to be like a curriculum with every community. Every child needs to have that lesson at birth, and it has to be drilled in every day….. like we need to get back to that. Kindergarten preschool Bible study…. That’s the manual he has everything from birth to death every kind of relationship every marriage. Everything is in there even explainable to a child…. Think about it they removed that book from the schools in 1962. Look at what happened. 1969 they had legal divorce and millions of abortions and tons of kids having sex without marriage…. Then came the drugs the crack. The aids. Transvestite prostitutes not getting arrested…. Night clubs with transvestites in drag queens, then gay parades until we have trans. Gender ideology, and school shooters……. It’s all one bowl of ungodly stuff, that you are correct it created the most ignorant and stupid society…. And the only solution is to start from the beginning. Forget everyone else they’re going to go there own moronic way and destroy themselves, and that also is written in the Bible. But we can bring it back to the little kids….. make it mandatory…. And people letting go of their emotional support animals and get some backbone. Hahaha
And it’s a little hard to tell somebody to put the phone down when they’re walking around with EarPods, holding a shiatsu in their arms and the phone… he wouldn’t believe the things I’ve yelled at those people….. and I don’t even get their head to turn…. They are very busy. Hahahah
Hi Bud. I was expecting your comment. 🙂 I’m going to have to politely disagree with you. These things may have led humanity to this point, and maybe they haven’t- but regardless we are here now as a society and you will never convince me an unhealthy marriage is better for kids than a divorce. Yes, we could and should be more mindful of our selections of spouses, unfortunately most humans lack that level of EQ and awareness. And not even Jesus can handle fools in love. But I wouldn’t go back and change a thing- I’m happy with the outcome of my divorce and the amazing 3 kids that came out of my marriage. I hope they take on their mom & dad’s best qualities and ditch the rest. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. Even the way society is today.
I have a group of friends from the Jersey shore. We are getting together to do audio and other things about divorce, and what he did to our communities.. some of these kids are famous they’ve been on TV shows, movies, in the NFL, supermodels, many of them have been at the highest level of industries, the best looking most healthiest, looking kids you ever saw in your life, everybody thinks they are great, and today great adults, except they are divorced. They have messed up kids., and nobody has any idea of what we were doing and I’m talking a huge crew of over 50 guys, hundreds of girls, and people we know around the world in all the cities, Miami, Los Angeles, New York City, the Jersey shore, I’m talking 100% 100% of everyone of these guys was so immoral in their sexual behavior, everybody was doing drugs, doing illegal things, beyond belief, and nobody has any idea outside of those circles…. Look at the P Diddy newsfeeds…. Those things go on and have been going on in houses all over the country in penthouses hotels, islands., I’ve seen them I’ve been there… the rooms of AA tens of millions successful people people that look great act great have everything going on it seems… total disasters, disgusting and behavior in the way they talk how they think they are cheaters liars. Divorced families. Almost all of them came from broken homes. There is such data here…. That the idea that some kids benefit from the divorced family…. It is just a tiny number…. It’s what for divorce lawyers want you to think it’s what they’re teaching at school, even a Church in Synagogue now is OK with divorce if there’s abuse…. If there’s abuse in one family., you’re talking, millions of people are getting divorced without the abuse… most people get divorced because they’re unhappy. It’s not from abuse., and just because someone’s getting drunk or their verbally abusive, and two years go by, and somebody is unhappy, they think that’s an excuse to get divorced, when both people are lying, they are not honest with each other or themselves… I mean, there are so many levels…. And I’ve done my diligence. My research is so sound in the subject matter….. it is beyond comprehension what has happened since 1969 you should look at 1979 at 30% of the country getting divorced including all the movie stars Rockstars everybody got divorced once it was legal, there wasn’t any real abuse going on. They were just unhappy and the verbal abuse and other things starts happening when people don’t honor each other when they don’t care about anyone but themselves…. You’re supposed to give everything to your spouse, cherish the spouse more than yourself. That’s a marriage. There should be no self in the marriage. And that should be the end of the story forever until the couple dies. Because it’s about gods community of people not about the personal satisfaction and happiness. We really have to get back to that. I don’t think there is ever going to be a solution with divorce because it’s causing have to country to be divorced…. It’s like pointing out abortion is OK because of the rape victim. It is one rape victim and 100 million other abortions that are not from rape it’s from beautiful girls getting abortions because their boyfriends want it that’s how we got our abortions. Never heard of one person getting raped and needing an abortion…. That is a news story that is rare…. Compared to the tens of millions that just get abortions because it’s convenient. Same with divorce. I rest my case… haha :)
And when you look at the numbers…. The child abuse, that’s a different story in the numbers are low compared to how many married couples there were. The bad marriage can be worked out…. You can also be kept from the kids in all kinds of ways. Another problem. Self-centeredness selfish parents. People who are unhappy, a woman who was unhappy, a husband, who is unhappy., they tell them selves that it’s better for the children to get divorced when the reality is nobody’s willing to sacrifice their unhappiness to keep the marriage together. And again the marriage vow is for better or worse. If somebody has a worse marriage, and then they get divorced they are liars. So no matter what anybody says the kids SEE to parents that made a covenant a promise, and then broke that promise which is a lie. Those kids grow up thinking it’s OK to lie in front of people if it means their happiness. There are so many things wrong with divorce on so many levels. It does nothing good for the kids. It is a lie that people tell them selves. The data will show you 70 million kids today that are completely messed up with broken homes….. if there’s one kid out of 1 million that turns out really well… that cannot justify divorce. You’re talking tens of millions of kids over decades on drugs, alcohol sexual diseases, medicated, suicides. Suicide is up 4000% with kids from broken homes….. the only people who think divorce is really good for the children are parents who are unhappy, and unwilling to do what it takes. It is absolutely self-centered people who will not sacrifice their own happiness. And this brings me back to the biblical principles where God does not care about a couples happiness. Marriage is not for the man and woman to be happy. It is for the procreation of children had to show the children that marriage is something that cannot be broken. And when the kids grow up with this idea, they don’t have a culture where there’s divorce. So they are very careful when they get married. The whole thing is wrong because the culture is wrong and to believe that well., that’s just our society today…. That’s what’s wrong with the society. That’s what causes more of the problem that people are willing to accept the culture. We need to fight the culture change it…. Bring back stigma…. Get rid of programs get rid of divorce lawyers make divorce illegal…. And that will prevent a lot of people from getting married to the wrong person for the wrong reasons. Show me somebody who’s getting divorced and I will show you a couple that should’ve never been married. Red flags all over the place on both sides. Stupidity, ignorance, selfishness going into the marriage, stupidity, selfishness, ignorance, breaking up the marriage. And the kids suffer. If you can find kids that don’t suffer., there’s 20 million that are suffering and that will never be correct. They will never be honest they will never have a good reflection of what life is supposed to be because of the mother and father living in a cultural rat, where divorce is OK after you promise not to get divorced. Whatever happened to keeping your word.? For better or worse? So there is a certain type of worse that’s not included? Hahsha that’s not a marriage. Those people should be getting married with a different set of rules., like I promise to stay married to you, unless I don’t like it unless there’s some abuse then we’re getting divorced…. That’s a joke…. And that’s what we have as a society. It’s really horrible. Today’s society is terrible. The culture sucks. It is no good for kids. It’s no good for parents….. we have a really bad rotting decaying society and kids are even more sexual and messed up than ever…. That’s a fact. Otherwise we wouldn’t have school shooters transvestites in the Olympics and kids thinking they can be a different gender. It started with sex, education, legal divorce. And Planned Parenthood.. those three things destroyed our society look at before 1969 when divorce was illegal. Healthy communities. Regardless of any abuse going on in families 99% of kids from married families were thriving the ones that stayed together….. because they sacrificed their happiness for the children…. We need to get back to that. I am a Warrior to get back to those principles bring the Bible back to kindergarten and you will see in 20 years total difference….. bring back illegal divorce, and make people think before they get married…. We need something better than just accepting that this is the way it is… and again, just like the online bullying happens to almost nobody compared to how many kids are sexualized, which is 100% of them in kindergarten…. The kids who are OK after a divorce is like one out of 1 million…. And most parents won’t even see it because the kids aren’t showing the parents what’s going on in their lives behind their backs….. the kids are stupid. They are ignorant, sexual, and mentally hindered as a generation for the last 30 years worse than ever
I will never ever say or think anyone should just walk away from their marriage bc of a bad season or hard time or unhealthy learned habits. Psychology and attachment styles play a lot in this, another thing religion can’t help parents with bc it’s not about morals or values but habits and discipline styles. I fought for my marriage for years. I even became lovingly submissive the way “god says to” and trusted him to take the lead as the head of our family. Instead he left us home alone half the time while he galavanted all over the country for work using viagra and banging all of his mistresses and side pieces. After dealing with that for years- enough was enough. I’ll be dammed if my kids grow up thinking that’s how shits done- fuck that. And if God has a problem with that, maybe he should have worked harder on that man’s hardened heart. (Another sin btw)
Take a look at the guy that did this to you in marriage… his background, his parents, his belief or not belief…. You can’t get into the biblical principles after the marriage….. what I’m saying is we need to get back, we need to bring back the Bible to the four year olds in the five year olds, so they believe in hell as a real place that they could possibly end up if they do the wrong things against God. That one thing, that fear, that kept 96% of the country in line for almost 200 years. My mother side of the family can be traced back almost 3000 years without any breaks in the marriages…. Because they feared God…. So there was no worry about anything else…. The reality that there’s life after death that somebody could go to hell….. people say that’s a horrible thing to teach a kid? The Board of Education in the government came up with that lie and paid Harvard professors billions in endowments to back that science up… so they could scare kids with climate racism, global warming save the planet, save the animals, every kind of sexual teaching, evolution that we came from apes… so Kids will just think their animals, and things like marriage and real love are just things that can be broken or changed depending on an emotion and making emotions important like a kid’s emotions are important. That was the opposite of what we used to learn in school. Kids were taught emotions are worthless and they can lead to the wrong decisions. That there is a right and wrong way to live according to the Bible and it has the opposite to do with the emotion and how people feel. A child is not supposed to care how he feels or she feels instead, they should care more about God and the word of God and obey the parents who follow the word of God. Crazy idea.? But it works. It’s what actually built this country. The removal of those principles is tearing down the country to the point of the school shooter transgendersm surgeries for little kids mental illness suicide….. divorce…. More than 50% of people get divorced…. You can throw divorcing with the rest of the rot because the marriages were no good to begin with. You see what I’m saying.? This guy you’re talking about sounds like every guy I’ve known in my entire life. Almost all men are like that….. and the ones that seem really nice and they’re not like that? They have other issues and they hide it better….. the pornography, the sexuality…. It is brutal and I’m talking like every dude. You wouldn’t believe the doctors lawyers all the married men that I saw at these parties in crack hotels in fancy penthouses mansions with prostitutes, all kinds of things going on and then they go back home to their wives… this is all over the country everywhere would like every dude I’ve ever known… the only people I know that aren’t like that are serious, God-fearing people and it’s very few when it comes to men. And the thing about women that are good and don’t behave like that….. they don’t believe in God…. So they trust the wrong people, they trust in men instead of God, or like you talk about you try to do some thing a little later in life, when we should just really look at how we can prevent the next generation from having the problems. You are correct that our society has gotten to a place where it’s almost impossible to change the 30 or 40 year old…. The person who’s married now… that’s almost an impossibility. But if we bring the book back into the kindergarten….. can change society the other way we can bring it back to an old time where marriage was forever till death… where people fear God…. My mother had fear, so did my dad…. I’m sure they had other things on your mind. Sometimes who knows I know my mother didn’t, but my father was an elite athlete., race car driver, worldly guy…. He told me when he got married. He sacrificed everything for my mom.. he would not drive a Porsche, or a motorcycle, he would not look at other women, and I know my friends mom who look like Joanne Feldman was after him for years she told me later in life that he was the only guy that never gave her the time of day. She used to go to my baseball games and try to hit on my father and he would move. He cherished my mother… and it was more than just loving her… his family brought him up, telling him that if he ever disrespected his wife in any way…. He would go to hell. And he would be living in hell forever…. He might not have believed it…. But he wasn’t sure. And there is the difference. The fact that there might be hell, it might be real….. it ruins peoples good time to go flirt to go cheat to lie… it kind of puts a damper on those things. It certainly does with me…. I can’t tell you how different my life is because of that fear. And that’s because I died in 1998 and I actually popped out of my body and got taken down to that place for a couple seconds before I got taken up into the clouds….. it’s real. That’s why the only answer is to bring back the book teach kids from birth that it’s real. Even if they go astray., even if they deny it, and say they don’t believe… a little doubt will change everything in their life. Everything will be different because of that doubt. Today we have people that don’t believe that all they are convinced there’s no such thing as heaven or hell. With that mindset., we have no chance for anything really good as a society… going to be just a lot of sad stories and people trying to figure stuff out and it’s not going to work… it’s not working… I mean it is a disaster when you look at almost every kid today… absolute disasters… and if they are doing OK… ignorance, and stupidity, plagues them… we have an ignorant society, and that breeds stupidity. The real wisdom in life comes from that fear of God. The decisions people make when they fear God are very wise. Decisions that people make when they don’t fear God.? Well, you can see those kinds of decisions in real time…. They are always selfish based on somebody’s feelings, and not the fear of God. People try to make themselves happy…. And that’s a huge problem. That is not wise. Someone’s own happiness is irrelevant…. Because there’s really no such thing as somebody making themselves happier by changing something in their life, because the happiness usually comes from being selfless…. True happiness comes from serving others, and not one’s self. The more someone tries to make themselves happy by changing their life the more self-centered they are. I’m gonna stop now because I could just keep going forever. Hahaha
There’s the problem… you’re accepting the unfortunate society and the people who have that unfortunate thinking you’re accepting it. You’re going with the culture. This will never benefit society on a hold. Kids will continue getting worse. There will be more sickness more murder, more rape, early or death and less family units less property ownership if anybody thinks that’s OK like that’s just the way our society is…. You’re excepting the decline and the eventual wiping out of the greatest country on earth, which is almost on its way.
You are probably right on where things are going- however there is a lot of emotional freedom in radically accepting things as they are. Who are we to say what someone should think or believe or how to live their lives? Be gay, get divorced, be obese, be lazy, gossip, lie, cheat, have sex while on your period, have a throuple- hell, identify as a damn dog for all I care- those of which are just a few of the 600+ sins in the Christian Bible- we ALL sin differently. That’s a fact. Religion never has automatically instilled morals or ethics in anyone, many shielding their sins behind their God acting self-righteous. Maybe, just maybe, if we all stopped caring about what every one else was doing and how they sin, we’d focus more on ourselves and be a better society. All the divorcees, gays, straights, Christian’s and Jews and all the binary individuals can live happily together on a shared planet God put us all on together. Humans fight and passionately disagree over the dumbest things and still haven’t learned the purpose of life.
Every single word hits home. Thank you.
Thank you for reading and supporting my article. I wish there were a better education system for divorcing parents to handle this better. Was there a part that hit home more?
Read it & commented. I could’ve written that myself- looks like we married and divorced the same controlling pompous. 🤣