In answer to your last set of questions: Yes, I have lost relationships as a result of finally setting boundaries. Many. I can see where I was complicit in setting up their expectations of me when I was a boundary-less people pleaser but I didn’t expect the relationship/friendship to end when I spoke up. Ultimately I came to the place of realizing that if finally having some self respect was all it took to sever ties then the union was never built on any lasting qualities.
Thank you Dana for continuing the conversation. It’s bittersweet and humbling when these things happen. As painful as it is to go through, it’s better in the end. I never expected to lose so many connections either, but good riddance.
Jennifer, the story of your friend befriending your enemy is shocking. Perhaps this so-called friend of yours had a double-face. Setting boundaries is crucial for peace of mind! Take care of yourself 🙏
Hi Victoria. Yes, you are correct, that "friend" was very two-faced and full of raging jealousy. It eats her alive and causes her to cross boundaries and hurt people while pointing the finger at others. Needless to say, she is no longer a part of my life. Thank you for reading.
Love this post. It resonates with me. Just the other day I was telling a friend how freeing it was for me to say yes or no when I want to rather than looking to others for direction or letting people walk all over me. I am slowly trying to set boundaries and break old habits. I really appreciate the clear advice on how to go about setting them!
Hi Mary. Love the name of your substack first of all...MOMents....love that! And yes, it's a slow process. We set the intention every day and then take the baby steps to change our old ways. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves which has a domino effect of changing how others treat us....even if that means they leave. Thank you for continuing the conversation and sharing your story.
Spot on! I dealt with these type of people my entire life. And it's usually the closest ones around you. Thank you for writing this masterpiece Jennifer!
Thank you for the compliment. I am sorry you experienced this first hand, but I hope you are in a better place now and no longer allow people to take advantage. The harest part is detaching and letting go from ones we love. I am going through that right now and it's so hard. But I have to love myself more so this doesn't continue. Ugh...being human is really hard.
Relieved but also, I felt a little lonely, if I’m being totally honest. For me, my whole life changed at once. I became a new mom. I moved to a new city from the Midwest and so it hurt when I did begin to set boundaries for myself and realized how many people were not really my true friend.
I understand that feeling completely. I too moved from the Midwest (Chicago burbs) and only had my exes family before I stood up for myself. It's been lonely and peaceful at the same time. I'd rather be alone then have the illusion I am not. True friends are rare and we don't get many. The more "friends' we have, there is a good chance we don't have any and the ones we think will be there are often not the ones we expect.
I think part of the problem is that girls are given the wrong training program. We are trained to be people pleasers. I used to be this way, but I have NO PROBLEM saying no to people. Users have no limits and are simply psychic vampires. Having healthy boundaries is essential for any quality life.
I completely agree! From an early age, girls are conditioned to be people pleasers—to be agreeable, accommodating, and to put everyone else’s comfort above their own. But in reality, that kind of conditioning sets us up for a lifetime of being drained by people who have no problem taking and taking. It's a valuable lesson I learn every day.
I love that you’ve broken free from that pattern! Users and psychic vampires (great term, by the way!) don’t respect limits because they don’t believe they should have any. That’s why setting unapologetic boundaries is non-negotiable if we want to protect our energy from those vampires, and build a life that actually serves us, rather than one that just serves others.
It’s amazing how different life feels when you finally stop being available to people who only show up when they need something. Boundaries aren’t just about keeping toxic people out—they’re about making space for the right people to come in.
Love your perspective on this, and I appreciate you sharing it! 💜
The things you point out about people, are correct. But having the problem and trying to correct it is the problem. The reason we have these behaviors is because of self-centered narcissism, including the people who consider themselves the better person, the one who gets worked on. This comes from no biblical teachings no biblical principles, having no fear of God, heaven and hell instilled in a child early on. The reason society gets worse with each generation, where millions of people end up pointing out the problems as if that’s going to solve anything, that is just another problem. The government removed the Bibles from the schools in the 60s for the sole purpose of creating generations of children that would grow up and think of themselves as important more than god more than others, to love themselves, to chase their dreams, no matter what they are, with no real foundation in what actually creates healthy communities, where people get married, and stay married, where commitment is more important than ones happiness. Where are the fear of God, at the forefront of everyone’s mind, so they think about others before themselves, where the use of their language is thought out as to how it will affect other people. They removed the 10 Commandments from schools because it teaches the first commandment is to love God before one’s self, and then loving others, as one’s self, making the self the third person on the list. These teachings prevented everything we see wrong today with human beings. When a child is a teenager and having sex with whomever, without commitment, without marriage, believing there’s such thing as being single, and having a healthy sex life, it’s all founded in a false ideology that comes from all kinds of mysticism, gurus, like Ekardt Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Rumi, every philosophy and ideology that destroyed entire nations, and kept dictators in power. It was only the teachings of the Old Testament and Jesus Christ, the Bible, that actually prospered communities, it was the only thing that made the United States go from being in debt in the 1800s, to the world superpower in less than 200 years. Where there was less than 2% divorce in 1960, where a teacher would be afraid to teach something that was a lie, or something unfounded to a child, like evolution where we come from apes, or things about recycling and climate, animal rights, where the American history of the founding fathers has the omittance of the Christianity that George Washington, Ben Franklin, James Madison and others used as the framework which is where they wanted our rights to come from, and not from government. By 1969 the first legal divorce was passed, creating millions of broken homes, Sex education by the 1970s created a generation of sexual kids getting diseases and having legal abortion. By the 80s, we had crack aids, drug rehabs, instead of jail, creating millions of kids dealing drugs, prostitution in the streets of the cities with lenient laws, so children could be exposed to these things, even while driving in their parents cars…. Fast forward to today’s sex education in school and it is pornography, hard-core sexual ideology… racism, and everything that will make sure the child grows up and knows nothing about economics. Geography politics marriage, true love, and how to navigate simple relationships with friends. It created almost 90% of the entire populace of the United States with the mindset that the individual life of one’s self is the most important thing, the way somebody looks, what they have, but they don’t have, their careers, having someone to love without understanding what it is, they are so self-centered, trying to make themselves happy every day, there is no thought of other people except for when they need them for something. And that’s where you get these problems that can’t be solved by pointing them out. If people don’t fear behaving selfishly, they’re not going to care if anyone tells them that they are acting that way. If a person is not selfish, and they get offended or hurt, because others do not reciprocate, they are actually selfish themselves, because the idea of not being selfish and being the better person, is an act that is based on just doing what is right, and not having any emotion about what other people do in return. That philosophy comes from the Bible…. It is about pleasing God, not getting pleasure for one’s self, not having other people behave the way somebody would like them to. It’s about behaving in a manner that other people would like to emulate… reflecting, something attractive in the human behavior… and in order to have that paradigm, there has to be no self, no thought of one’s own feelings about how other people behave. Once a person is pointing out the bad behavior of others, then that person is just the same as the others. If people would stop thinking about themselves, and how other people treat them, we wouldn’t have half the problems that we see. If people put a biblical lens on the job they chose, on the friendships they cultivated, they would be living lives free from many of these problems that exist on a massive scale. But when the first thing on most peoples minds besides their physical health, beauty, his money, they will put them selves in arenas surrounded by self-centered individuals like themselves… and when some individuals seem to be better than others, it’s an illusion, because the reality is that there are just other people much worse… and nobody is behaving correctly. Depression for the most part is the perpetual thinking of one’s self, one’s own health one’s own aesthetics, ones finances, what they have what they don’t have, looking at others as a reflection of themselves, letting emotions dictate their behavior, if somebody hurts them, they feel hurt, they react because of how they feel, causing more emotional problems. Without a biblical lens, people will believe in their friends words, an author of a book, a teacher in school, something they read on Wikipedia…. Giving them nothing, but more confusion, more anxiety, more stress, and then they will end up with an emotional support animal thinking that is a healthy thing for a human being, who has emotional problems. The plethora of issues that plague the human condition in this country is on a magnitude, never seen in this world, and that is because generations have been raised up, believing that themselves are the most important people, without any biblical foundation, which is the only thing that ever created, generations of healthy, vibrant, loving, and selfless individuals. There is no way somebody is going to teach another person how to behave properly, the problem stems from almost 100 years of the generations, moving away from those principles that are the only things that change people, correct people, and cause people to act in a proper and decent selfless manner. It comes from early childhood… the right way to learn right and wrong the only time to be tight right from wrong in the biblical sense. By the time someone is an adult, and they have had no foundation in these principles, you get exactly what you see today in all these communities in the job markets in the social scenes… it is a sea of ignorance, stupidity, and complete self-centeredness.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I truly respect your faith and your perspective on how biblical teachings shape moral values and human behavior. As a Christian myself, I absolutely believe that spiritual guidance provides an essential foundation for living a life of integrity, empathy, and self-respect.
That said, I also believe that human decency and emotional intelligence go beyond just religious teachings. Plenty of people grow up in faith-based households yet still struggle with self-awareness, empathy, and respecting boundaries. On the other hand, there are also those without a strict religious foundation who practice kindness, integrity, and selflessness because they’ve developed strong emotional intelligence and empathy.
For me, spirituality—including my relationship with God—is a beacon that guides me, but I also recognize that people can have Jesus in their hearts and still struggle with being decent human beings. I also don't believe the way they lived thousands of years ago is anywhere the same as is today and adjustments are to be made on personal preferences vs religious rules, but that is a whole different topic and conversation.
It’s why emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and strong boundaries are so important. We can’t just rely on people to ‘do the right thing’—we have to teach them how to respect others while also honoring their own values and limits. Besides, we don't all have the same boundaries, so how do others know unless we teach them?
I completely agree that self-centeredness is a massive issue today, but I don’t believe that pointing it out makes us part of the problem—it makes us aware of how to create solutions. If we don’t talk about it, how do we help people see the patterns they need to break?
At the end of the day, I think we both agree that a strong moral foundation is key to a thriving society. I just believe that faith alone isn’t enough—we also need emotional intelligence, accountability, and the ability to set and respect boundaries.
I appreciate your perspective and the depth of thought you’ve put into this. These are the kinds of conversations that challenge us to think critically and grow, and I’m always open to them.
I forgot to add, that faith based households, have a little faith as a whole….. you have to look at the influence, the type of teaching, how it’s administered…. And in-depth analysis on the generations going back to the 1800s until the 1960s…. And you will see the most gigantic shift in biblical doctrine, and how people even care about it in the family unit. Over 90% of the church going populous are completely out of line with the word of God. There is no fear…. There is no true belief in hell….. there was such a fear of that one thing in most households in most children’s minds 100 years ago, that it prevented over 90% of every mental issue every violent issue all kinds of issues that we see permeating the Christian family today. The church is dead…. It has been dead for quite a while… I remember J Vernon McGee decades ago saying, people are steeped in churchianity, and not in Jesus Christ. He said get out of the church and get in line with Jesus Christ… the Sunday sermon, the one hour lesson and one hour worship, has done nothing, as the results are visible today. If the influence on the church and synagogue in 2500 years has been that we celebrate sexuality in the streets all over the world coming out of the Christian Judea country do United States, a homeless population increasing astronomically every decade… it has failed. There has to be a re-indoctrination…. A reversion back to how the Bible was meant to be taught… a correction of parenting, where the child is not coddled, where there is no self in the thought, not before God, where is the fear of doing something wrong or saying something wrong over powers a persons emotions and dictates all their behavior instead of how they feel. You cannot have emotion and feelings, permeate the Christian life, or that is not a life where Jesus his first. It is a bigger problem than most people can see, because they are too focused on either outside problems, or their own feelings and emotions about life and even religion, which, by the way is evil… the idea that religion is even something people should be interested in, there’s another problem of not understanding, biblical principles, which are the antithesis to any kind of religious behavior… I would even say the separation of the synagogue in the church is an abomination. It is what has caused every war, and dissonance between human beings. Anyone just Hass to go back and look at the first churches of Antioch Thessalonica Philippi, even the first churches after they put the first Cannon together in 300 ad, that first Bible, and the way it was preached…. The leader of the church did not own the building…. I mean there are a plethora of things that turned completely unbiblical by the fifth century, so by the 1600s, the world was already on its way to end up like it is today…. I don’t even have the discussion anymore about faith based, or the synagogue or the church…. We have reached a point where multiple generations are completely removed from God…. And that includes almost the entire population of Christians Jews and anybody who is trying to practice some kind of biblical doctrine in their lives…. It has been poisoned. It has been reformed. It has been injected with the culture…. And I truly believe it is the doubt that is at the core of all of it… the doubt that there is no Helll, the place called Hades, that most people will find themselves in when the body dies. I saw this place first hand in 1998 and then I was taking up out of it by a Crystaline tornado after an overdose. It’s a longer story. Jessica Reed Kraus going to put it into a long format as part of a lifelong story, I am telling with her, as she is even part of that story. It is the thing that I saw in 1998 that actually changed everything about my being, from my language, to the way, I think the way I behave… complete transformation because of that fear. Before I had that fear, it would’ve been a virtual impossibility to have actual true faith in God in the society… absolute impossibility…. Not really, that like people would need to have in order to have a healthy populous. People need to have the feeling that there is hell… hell for using the F word, hell for having sex outside of marriage… just those two things alone could change the entire world. That’s what we need to instill in every newborn from the time they can understand language.
Hi Bineettio. Unfortunately, the consequence of the blessing of boundaries is that we lose certain connections, but I prefer to refer to is as "trimming off the fat" and getting rid of the dead weight of those holding me back. The genuine connections shift to the boundaries and improve. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
In answer to your last set of questions: Yes, I have lost relationships as a result of finally setting boundaries. Many. I can see where I was complicit in setting up their expectations of me when I was a boundary-less people pleaser but I didn’t expect the relationship/friendship to end when I spoke up. Ultimately I came to the place of realizing that if finally having some self respect was all it took to sever ties then the union was never built on any lasting qualities.
Thank you Dana for continuing the conversation. It’s bittersweet and humbling when these things happen. As painful as it is to go through, it’s better in the end. I never expected to lose so many connections either, but good riddance.
Boundaries are so important! Thanks for this.
Thank you, Phillip for reading and commenting. Yes- Boundaries are imperative.
Jennifer, the story of your friend befriending your enemy is shocking. Perhaps this so-called friend of yours had a double-face. Setting boundaries is crucial for peace of mind! Take care of yourself 🙏
Hi Victoria. Yes, you are correct, that "friend" was very two-faced and full of raging jealousy. It eats her alive and causes her to cross boundaries and hurt people while pointing the finger at others. Needless to say, she is no longer a part of my life. Thank you for reading.
Love this post. It resonates with me. Just the other day I was telling a friend how freeing it was for me to say yes or no when I want to rather than looking to others for direction or letting people walk all over me. I am slowly trying to set boundaries and break old habits. I really appreciate the clear advice on how to go about setting them!
Hi Mary. Love the name of your substack first of all...MOMents....love that! And yes, it's a slow process. We set the intention every day and then take the baby steps to change our old ways. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves which has a domino effect of changing how others treat us....even if that means they leave. Thank you for continuing the conversation and sharing your story.
Spot on! I dealt with these type of people my entire life. And it's usually the closest ones around you. Thank you for writing this masterpiece Jennifer!
Thank you for the compliment. I am sorry you experienced this first hand, but I hope you are in a better place now and no longer allow people to take advantage. The harest part is detaching and letting go from ones we love. I am going through that right now and it's so hard. But I have to love myself more so this doesn't continue. Ugh...being human is really hard.
Okay girl, so it’s not just me! I lost so many “friends” after I had my daughter, when I stopped being a doormat. I have similar stories.
Hi Leonora. How do you feel after you stopped being a doormat?
Relieved but also, I felt a little lonely, if I’m being totally honest. For me, my whole life changed at once. I became a new mom. I moved to a new city from the Midwest and so it hurt when I did begin to set boundaries for myself and realized how many people were not really my true friend.
I understand that feeling completely. I too moved from the Midwest (Chicago burbs) and only had my exes family before I stood up for myself. It's been lonely and peaceful at the same time. I'd rather be alone then have the illusion I am not. True friends are rare and we don't get many. The more "friends' we have, there is a good chance we don't have any and the ones we think will be there are often not the ones we expect.
I think part of the problem is that girls are given the wrong training program. We are trained to be people pleasers. I used to be this way, but I have NO PROBLEM saying no to people. Users have no limits and are simply psychic vampires. Having healthy boundaries is essential for any quality life.
Hi Nancy. Thank you for commenting.
I completely agree! From an early age, girls are conditioned to be people pleasers—to be agreeable, accommodating, and to put everyone else’s comfort above their own. But in reality, that kind of conditioning sets us up for a lifetime of being drained by people who have no problem taking and taking. It's a valuable lesson I learn every day.
I love that you’ve broken free from that pattern! Users and psychic vampires (great term, by the way!) don’t respect limits because they don’t believe they should have any. That’s why setting unapologetic boundaries is non-negotiable if we want to protect our energy from those vampires, and build a life that actually serves us, rather than one that just serves others.
It’s amazing how different life feels when you finally stop being available to people who only show up when they need something. Boundaries aren’t just about keeping toxic people out—they’re about making space for the right people to come in.
Love your perspective on this, and I appreciate you sharing it! 💜
The things you point out about people, are correct. But having the problem and trying to correct it is the problem. The reason we have these behaviors is because of self-centered narcissism, including the people who consider themselves the better person, the one who gets worked on. This comes from no biblical teachings no biblical principles, having no fear of God, heaven and hell instilled in a child early on. The reason society gets worse with each generation, where millions of people end up pointing out the problems as if that’s going to solve anything, that is just another problem. The government removed the Bibles from the schools in the 60s for the sole purpose of creating generations of children that would grow up and think of themselves as important more than god more than others, to love themselves, to chase their dreams, no matter what they are, with no real foundation in what actually creates healthy communities, where people get married, and stay married, where commitment is more important than ones happiness. Where are the fear of God, at the forefront of everyone’s mind, so they think about others before themselves, where the use of their language is thought out as to how it will affect other people. They removed the 10 Commandments from schools because it teaches the first commandment is to love God before one’s self, and then loving others, as one’s self, making the self the third person on the list. These teachings prevented everything we see wrong today with human beings. When a child is a teenager and having sex with whomever, without commitment, without marriage, believing there’s such thing as being single, and having a healthy sex life, it’s all founded in a false ideology that comes from all kinds of mysticism, gurus, like Ekardt Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Rumi, every philosophy and ideology that destroyed entire nations, and kept dictators in power. It was only the teachings of the Old Testament and Jesus Christ, the Bible, that actually prospered communities, it was the only thing that made the United States go from being in debt in the 1800s, to the world superpower in less than 200 years. Where there was less than 2% divorce in 1960, where a teacher would be afraid to teach something that was a lie, or something unfounded to a child, like evolution where we come from apes, or things about recycling and climate, animal rights, where the American history of the founding fathers has the omittance of the Christianity that George Washington, Ben Franklin, James Madison and others used as the framework which is where they wanted our rights to come from, and not from government. By 1969 the first legal divorce was passed, creating millions of broken homes, Sex education by the 1970s created a generation of sexual kids getting diseases and having legal abortion. By the 80s, we had crack aids, drug rehabs, instead of jail, creating millions of kids dealing drugs, prostitution in the streets of the cities with lenient laws, so children could be exposed to these things, even while driving in their parents cars…. Fast forward to today’s sex education in school and it is pornography, hard-core sexual ideology… racism, and everything that will make sure the child grows up and knows nothing about economics. Geography politics marriage, true love, and how to navigate simple relationships with friends. It created almost 90% of the entire populace of the United States with the mindset that the individual life of one’s self is the most important thing, the way somebody looks, what they have, but they don’t have, their careers, having someone to love without understanding what it is, they are so self-centered, trying to make themselves happy every day, there is no thought of other people except for when they need them for something. And that’s where you get these problems that can’t be solved by pointing them out. If people don’t fear behaving selfishly, they’re not going to care if anyone tells them that they are acting that way. If a person is not selfish, and they get offended or hurt, because others do not reciprocate, they are actually selfish themselves, because the idea of not being selfish and being the better person, is an act that is based on just doing what is right, and not having any emotion about what other people do in return. That philosophy comes from the Bible…. It is about pleasing God, not getting pleasure for one’s self, not having other people behave the way somebody would like them to. It’s about behaving in a manner that other people would like to emulate… reflecting, something attractive in the human behavior… and in order to have that paradigm, there has to be no self, no thought of one’s own feelings about how other people behave. Once a person is pointing out the bad behavior of others, then that person is just the same as the others. If people would stop thinking about themselves, and how other people treat them, we wouldn’t have half the problems that we see. If people put a biblical lens on the job they chose, on the friendships they cultivated, they would be living lives free from many of these problems that exist on a massive scale. But when the first thing on most peoples minds besides their physical health, beauty, his money, they will put them selves in arenas surrounded by self-centered individuals like themselves… and when some individuals seem to be better than others, it’s an illusion, because the reality is that there are just other people much worse… and nobody is behaving correctly. Depression for the most part is the perpetual thinking of one’s self, one’s own health one’s own aesthetics, ones finances, what they have what they don’t have, looking at others as a reflection of themselves, letting emotions dictate their behavior, if somebody hurts them, they feel hurt, they react because of how they feel, causing more emotional problems. Without a biblical lens, people will believe in their friends words, an author of a book, a teacher in school, something they read on Wikipedia…. Giving them nothing, but more confusion, more anxiety, more stress, and then they will end up with an emotional support animal thinking that is a healthy thing for a human being, who has emotional problems. The plethora of issues that plague the human condition in this country is on a magnitude, never seen in this world, and that is because generations have been raised up, believing that themselves are the most important people, without any biblical foundation, which is the only thing that ever created, generations of healthy, vibrant, loving, and selfless individuals. There is no way somebody is going to teach another person how to behave properly, the problem stems from almost 100 years of the generations, moving away from those principles that are the only things that change people, correct people, and cause people to act in a proper and decent selfless manner. It comes from early childhood… the right way to learn right and wrong the only time to be tight right from wrong in the biblical sense. By the time someone is an adult, and they have had no foundation in these principles, you get exactly what you see today in all these communities in the job markets in the social scenes… it is a sea of ignorance, stupidity, and complete self-centeredness.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. I truly respect your faith and your perspective on how biblical teachings shape moral values and human behavior. As a Christian myself, I absolutely believe that spiritual guidance provides an essential foundation for living a life of integrity, empathy, and self-respect.
That said, I also believe that human decency and emotional intelligence go beyond just religious teachings. Plenty of people grow up in faith-based households yet still struggle with self-awareness, empathy, and respecting boundaries. On the other hand, there are also those without a strict religious foundation who practice kindness, integrity, and selflessness because they’ve developed strong emotional intelligence and empathy.
For me, spirituality—including my relationship with God—is a beacon that guides me, but I also recognize that people can have Jesus in their hearts and still struggle with being decent human beings. I also don't believe the way they lived thousands of years ago is anywhere the same as is today and adjustments are to be made on personal preferences vs religious rules, but that is a whole different topic and conversation.
It’s why emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and strong boundaries are so important. We can’t just rely on people to ‘do the right thing’—we have to teach them how to respect others while also honoring their own values and limits. Besides, we don't all have the same boundaries, so how do others know unless we teach them?
I completely agree that self-centeredness is a massive issue today, but I don’t believe that pointing it out makes us part of the problem—it makes us aware of how to create solutions. If we don’t talk about it, how do we help people see the patterns they need to break?
At the end of the day, I think we both agree that a strong moral foundation is key to a thriving society. I just believe that faith alone isn’t enough—we also need emotional intelligence, accountability, and the ability to set and respect boundaries.
I appreciate your perspective and the depth of thought you’ve put into this. These are the kinds of conversations that challenge us to think critically and grow, and I’m always open to them.
I forgot to add, that faith based households, have a little faith as a whole….. you have to look at the influence, the type of teaching, how it’s administered…. And in-depth analysis on the generations going back to the 1800s until the 1960s…. And you will see the most gigantic shift in biblical doctrine, and how people even care about it in the family unit. Over 90% of the church going populous are completely out of line with the word of God. There is no fear…. There is no true belief in hell….. there was such a fear of that one thing in most households in most children’s minds 100 years ago, that it prevented over 90% of every mental issue every violent issue all kinds of issues that we see permeating the Christian family today. The church is dead…. It has been dead for quite a while… I remember J Vernon McGee decades ago saying, people are steeped in churchianity, and not in Jesus Christ. He said get out of the church and get in line with Jesus Christ… the Sunday sermon, the one hour lesson and one hour worship, has done nothing, as the results are visible today. If the influence on the church and synagogue in 2500 years has been that we celebrate sexuality in the streets all over the world coming out of the Christian Judea country do United States, a homeless population increasing astronomically every decade… it has failed. There has to be a re-indoctrination…. A reversion back to how the Bible was meant to be taught… a correction of parenting, where the child is not coddled, where there is no self in the thought, not before God, where is the fear of doing something wrong or saying something wrong over powers a persons emotions and dictates all their behavior instead of how they feel. You cannot have emotion and feelings, permeate the Christian life, or that is not a life where Jesus his first. It is a bigger problem than most people can see, because they are too focused on either outside problems, or their own feelings and emotions about life and even religion, which, by the way is evil… the idea that religion is even something people should be interested in, there’s another problem of not understanding, biblical principles, which are the antithesis to any kind of religious behavior… I would even say the separation of the synagogue in the church is an abomination. It is what has caused every war, and dissonance between human beings. Anyone just Hass to go back and look at the first churches of Antioch Thessalonica Philippi, even the first churches after they put the first Cannon together in 300 ad, that first Bible, and the way it was preached…. The leader of the church did not own the building…. I mean there are a plethora of things that turned completely unbiblical by the fifth century, so by the 1600s, the world was already on its way to end up like it is today…. I don’t even have the discussion anymore about faith based, or the synagogue or the church…. We have reached a point where multiple generations are completely removed from God…. And that includes almost the entire population of Christians Jews and anybody who is trying to practice some kind of biblical doctrine in their lives…. It has been poisoned. It has been reformed. It has been injected with the culture…. And I truly believe it is the doubt that is at the core of all of it… the doubt that there is no Helll, the place called Hades, that most people will find themselves in when the body dies. I saw this place first hand in 1998 and then I was taking up out of it by a Crystaline tornado after an overdose. It’s a longer story. Jessica Reed Kraus going to put it into a long format as part of a lifelong story, I am telling with her, as she is even part of that story. It is the thing that I saw in 1998 that actually changed everything about my being, from my language, to the way, I think the way I behave… complete transformation because of that fear. Before I had that fear, it would’ve been a virtual impossibility to have actual true faith in God in the society… absolute impossibility…. Not really, that like people would need to have in order to have a healthy populous. People need to have the feeling that there is hell… hell for using the F word, hell for having sex outside of marriage… just those two things alone could change the entire world. That’s what we need to instill in every newborn from the time they can understand language.
Hi Bineettio. Unfortunately, the consequence of the blessing of boundaries is that we lose certain connections, but I prefer to refer to is as "trimming off the fat" and getting rid of the dead weight of those holding me back. The genuine connections shift to the boundaries and improve. And I wouldn't have it any other way.